Episode 92: The Spiritual Law of Mirroring

Hello, and welcome to today’s episode. We have all encountered people in our lives that have annoyed us, or disappointed us, or made us sad, or made us angry. It’s just a part of life. To put it simply, you’re going to interact with people that annoy you. You’re going to interact with people that make you angry. You’re going to interact with people that disappoint you. You’re also going to interact with people that make you feel loved and make you feel welcomed, and seen, and heard. It’s a really beautiful experience.

Within these experiences, we have the opportunity to practice different spiritual laws. Spiritual laws are always at hand if we like to see them or not. One of the spiritual laws that many people have heard of is the law of attraction. What we put out there is what we attract. But there’s also another law, and that is the law of mirroring. And the law of mirroring is the reflection we see in others is the reflection of ourselves. So let me say that slightly different. The way you view others, be it good, bad, or indifferent, is a direct reflection of yourself, of your inner reality.

And sometimes that’s a really hard pill to swallow when you’re in a relationship with someone that’s driving you nuts, that constantly disappoints you, that gets on your nerves. And trust me, I’ve been there. I used to have a coworker in the corporate world that would absolutely annoy me. Annoy me, annoy me, because he was so hyper, and he was so ungrounded, and he would just be all over the place, and he was disorganized. It wasn’t until I stopped, and paused, and asked myself this very simple question. What is he reflecting back in me that I dislike about myself? Because we have people in our lives that are coworkers, friends, colleagues, family members, romantic partners, and children.

We have so many people in our lives that we’re in relationships with that reflect back to us our distorted reality. Let me say that slightly differently.

Our inner world is constantly making a distortion. That distortion is created by previous experiences. Those previous experiences play into our psyche, play into our subconscious mind, and will replay experiences, will recreate experiences that create the destruction of reality. When you meet someone that starts to get on your nerves, or you notice something that you’re judging about that person, you have to stop and ask yourself, how is that connected back to you?

How have you in the past judged yourself in that way? How have you in the past behaved in that way? Or how are you currently behaving in that way in other situations outside of the situation you’re in with this particular person? It’s a very beautiful spiritual practice of self-awareness. When I did this with my coworker, I realized that he was annoying me because I had the tendency to get really ungrounded at home. I had the tendency to be unorganized at home. I was super organized at work, but at home, when I would get stressed out, my organization, my ADHD would get out of control, and my organization would just explode. It would just implode on itself.

That is something I didn’t care about myself at that moment in time, that I didn’t like about myself at that moment in time. His behavior at work really annoyed me because I was annoyed about it within myself. He was mirroring a behavior that I didn’t like about myself. We have to pause and reflect anytime we’re in relationship with someone and ask yourself, what are they mirroring? What are they mirroring? What are they teaching you about yourself?

When you stop playing victim when someone is hurting you, and you ask yourself, How have I hurt others in the past in this way? Now, it might not be exactly that way. How that person is hurting you is very valid. But we are reacting to that hurt from a place of victimhood. And when we can step back and start asking ourselves these deeply, deeply, deeply, deeply profound, curious questions, your self-awareness will allow you to grow beyond your wildest imagination. You can also attract people in your life that you really admire, and you really love them, and you love their behaviors, and you love their patterns.

It’s because you possess that quality as well. Maybe you haven’t even recognized that you have that ability. You have that ability to create patterns and beliefs within yourself that you see that other person reflecting back to you. Let’s say you admire how well put together someone is, but you always feel disheveled. Well, you admire them because there’s a deep desire within you to have that ability to take deep care of yourself and deep care of your appearance. You have it. They’re reflecting back to you something that you admire.

That self-awareness then you can apply in your self-care practices and how you show up in the world. I think so often we get caught up in the negative around what that person may be doing or saying to you or how you’re judging that person. And when we catch those judgments, we have the opportunity to become aware, but we also have the opportunity to become very aware of the positive impact relationships have in mirroring back to us qualities that we don’t yet recognize within ourselves that we possess.

There’s this weighing of the scales that I like to encourage. Now, it is easier to recognize and start to pinpoint, Hey, that person did me wrong. You can get all angry and upset, and we can get into this tornado of emotions, but then you have to stop, and pause, and have that awareness. Then we can also stop, pause, and have the awareness on the positive. And so, with this balancing act of awareness, you start to evolve. You start to clean the Distortion off the lenses you wear that create your reality. When you clean the lenses off, you start to see through the lens of love, of compassion, of wholeness.

You start to judge less. A good act of self-awareness is when you’re in judgment as well. I want to encourage you, no matter what relationship you’re in, be it a challenging one, a positive one, a loving one, take time to be present with the person that you’re in relationship with and ask yourself, what are they mirroring back to you that you can either grow and evolve from, or that you can accept as truth, that you’re able to also possess those amazing qualities as well, which will also assist you in growing and evolving. The spiritual law of mirroring is constantly at play if you choose to participate or not with it.

There are many other spiritual laws, and we’ll get more into those as we continue on this journey together of awakening.

I hope you enjoyed today’s episode. Be mindful of your reactions to other people and see how they are mirroring something within your subconscious about yourself, be it positive, negative, or neutral. I love you guys. I hope you have an amazing day. Take care, and I will talk to you soon. Make sure you like and subscribe. Bye.