There are clear signs that you are dealing with an energy vampire.
And when you are dealing with an energy vampire, you have every right to learn how to set boundaries.
Now the question becomes, why are you attracting energy vampires in the first place?
It is almost as if you have a big, shiny sign that says, Please tell me all of your problems.
This is because you can feel into a situation.
This is because you can channel information that helps them feel better.
And within that is the lesson.
The lesson is for you to take up space in conversation.
The lesson is for you to ground and root.
The lesson is for you to remind yourself that you are safe.
And the lesson is for you to hand their energy back to them, energetically, instead of carrying it yourself.
We have all heard the term energy vampire, but what does it really mean?
And how do we reclaim our energy and stop attracting energy vampires into our lives?
I used to have people come into my life who would take up all of my time.
When the conversation ended, I felt completely drained, like something just wasn’t right.
Maybe you have experienced this too.
Maybe you are on the phone with someone and, once you hang up, you feel like your energy has been completely zapped.
You feel empty.
You feel depleted.
This is a clear sign that you are interacting with an energy vampire.
But here is the important thing to understand.
This behavior is often very subconscious.
Most people who could be considered energy vampires do not realize that they are doing this.
It is not typically malicious or intentional.
That is an important distinction to make.
And at the same time, when you are dealing with an energy vampire, you have every right to set a boundary.
You have every right to say what you are and are not willing to engage in.
That is essential.
So before we go any further, let us clearly define what an energy vampire actually looks like.
An energy vampire is someone who takes up all of the space in a conversation.
They often show up as the victim.
They have endless complaints.
They have endless problems to share.
They usually seek you out because you make them feel better.
They can unload everything they are carrying onto you.
Their problems may seem small to you, but to them, they feel massive.
They may only contact you when something is going wrong in their life.
They are often drama magnets.
These dramatic individuals are textbook examples of energy vampires.
They tend to be critical and judgmental.
They regularly overtake the conversation.
They consume the space without making room for you.
They can also appear as a one-upper.
You share something happening in your life, and suddenly the focus shifts entirely to them.
They have to top everything that you are going through.
Once you can clearly identify this pattern, you can also begin to recognize how your body and energy respond to it.
You feel off after being around or talking to this person.
You feel tired.
You feel exhausted.
You dread seeing their name pop up on your phone.
You avoid their calls or messages when you can.
You feel guilty for not wanting to engage.
You feel guilty even thinking about how to set boundaries.
Your body reacts before your mind does.
You might feel knots in your stomach.
You might feel tightness in your chest.
These are signals that something is not aligned for you.
Once you recognize these signs, the next step is clear for how to deal with energy vampires.
You must set boundaries.
If someone consistently drains your energy, it is your responsibility to decide how to set boundaries and how you will engage with them, or if you will at all.
You may set that boundary internally.
If needed, you can also communicate that boundary directly to them.
You are responsible for holding your boundary.
They are not.
And there must be a consequence when a boundary is crossed.
Here is an example of what that may sound like:
I have noticed that you usually only call me when you are having a problem.
I would like our relationship to be a two-way street.
I would like us to talk about more than just problems.
Moving forward, if you call and the conversation is only about what is going wrong, I most likely will not be available for that.
I am sharing this with you now so that we can shift our dynamic.
Another example is this:
I have noticed that when we talk, the focus is always on you.
You rarely ask me how I am or what is happening in my life.
If I notice that pattern continuing, I will call it out.
It will then be up to you to change that behavior.
If nothing changes, then this friendship may no longer be aligned for me.
I know that can feel uncomfortable.
It can even feel harsh.
But nothing shifts without clarity and boundaries.
The next question becomes, why do you attract energy vampires in the first place?
Intuitives, sensitives, and empaths are especially magnetic to this type of person.
They can feel that you hold answers that will soothe them.
They can feel your heart.
They can feel your compassion.
It is almost as if you are walking around with an energetic sign that says, Tell me all of your problems.
This is because you care deeply.
You can feel into situations.
You can channel insight that makes others feel supported.
And there is nothing wrong with that.
But there is a lesson here for you.
You are learning how to set boundaries and take up space.
You are learning how to set energetic and emotional boundaries.
You are learning what behavior is acceptable to you and what is not.
And you are learning how to speak your truth when it matters most.
Now, let me share how to handle it if you already feel drained.
The first step is to consciously call your energy back.
Pause for a moment.
Drop into your heart.
Give yourself permission to shine again.
Breathe sunshine into your body.
Breathe happiness into your heart.
Breathe in love.
Allow your heart space to soften and smile.
Ground yourself into the Earth.
Root yourself in safety.
Remind yourself that you are protected and supported.
It is not your responsibility to carry another person’s emotional weight.
This practice might take one minute.
It might take two.
It might take a little longer if you need it.
What matters is that you reclaim yourself.
You reclaim your sovereignty.
You reclaim your light.
You can also visualize placing everything they gave you into a box.
In your mind’s eye, hand that box back to them.
It no longer belongs to you.
These are quick and powerful ways to fill your energy back up with love and light.
With love and blessings,
Amy Robeson
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There is a clear sign that you’re dealing with an energy vampire. When you’re dealing with an energy vampire, you have every right to set a boundary. Now, the question is, why are you attracting energy vampires in the first place? You have a big, shiny sign that says, please tell me all of your problems. This is because you can feel into a situation and channel information to make them feel better. And that lesson is for you to be to be able to take up space in a conversation, ground and root, and remind you’re safe, and you’re just handing it energetically back to them. Hello, and welcome to today’s episode. I’m so excited you are here. We’ve all heard the term energy vampire, but what is it? And how do you reclaim your energy and stop attracting energy vampires? I know for me, I used to have people that would come into my life that would always want to take up all of my time. When I was done talking to them, I always felt drained or something just didn’t feel right. Maybe you’ve noticed this. Maybe you’re talking to someone on the phone and then all of a sudden you hang up and it’s like everything’s been zapped out of you.
All of your energy is gone. This is a clear sign that you’re dealing with an energy vampire. But let me tell you something, this can be a very, very subconscious behavior for someone. Most people that I would consider energy vampires don’t realize they’re doing this. It’s not a malicious thing that they’re intending to do. It’s really important to understand that first. Second, when you’re dealing When you’re dealing with an energy vampire, you have every right to set a boundary to say, I’m not doing this, to state what it is that you’re willing and not willing to do. It’s really important that you have boundaries in But first, let’s talk about the signs of an energy vampire and what an energy vampire is. An energy vampire is someone that takes up all of the space in the conversation. The person that’s always, woe me, the victim always has so many things to complain about, so many things to share. They usually call you or want to get your attention because you make them feel better and they can load all of their junk onto you. They usually have a massive amount of problems that are going on in their life, and the problems can seem small to you but massive to them.
They can also be someone that only talks to you when something is going wrong in their life. They may or may not be asking you to fix it. They are drama magnets, meaning they attract a lot of drama in their life. They’re critical, they’re judgy, and they are often overtakers. And I mentioned this earlier that they just consume the conversation. It can also be looked at as a one upper. You share something going on in your life, and then all of a sudden, they overtake the conversation and they one up you on whatever it is that you have going on in your life. So now that you know what an energy vampire is and how to identify one, it’s important to know when your energy is being drained. Here are the signs. One, you feel off, you feel tired, you feel exhausted after being or talking with that person. Two, you dread when you see them text you or call you, or you avoid having a conversation with them when you notice they’re around. Number three, you feel guilty that you don’t want to be in conversation with them, and you feel guilty setting a boundary with them.
Number four, you feel knots in your belly. Your chest gets tight. There’s signals going on in your body that something’s not right. Now that you know the signs, what do you do if that happens? One, it’s really important to set boundaries. It’s just that simple. If you notice that this person drains you, you need to set boundaries on how you’re going to be in relationship with them. This boundary can be something that you set for yourself. Then if you need to communicate the boundary with the person, you can do that. You’re responsible for holding that boundary. That person is not. There’s always a consequence when a boundary is broken. Here’s an example of how you can set the Hey, I noticed that you only call me whenever you have a problem. I would like our relationship to be a two-way street where we talk about other things than just problems. The next time you call me, if it’s only to have a conversation about a problem, I’m most likely not going to be available for that conversation. I’m just letting you know ahead of time because I’d like to talk to you about other things as well.
Or it could be they always talk about themselves and not you, and the boundary is like, Hey, I’ve noticed that whenever we’re in conversation, you never ask me about things about me, and it’s always usually about you. So the next time I’m noticing that, I’m going to call you out on it, and it’s up to you to shift that behavior. Otherwise, I don’t think we can be friends anymore. I know this sounds harsh because it’s going to be something you have to deliver, but you have to set a boundary if you want something to change as well. Now, the question is, why are you attracting energy vampires in the first place? Usually, intuitives and senses positives attract energy vampires because you’re an empath, and they know that you have answers for them that will make them feel better. You have a big, shiny sign that says, please tell me all of your problems. This is because you have a big heart. This is because you can feel into a situation and channel information to make them feel better. You’re intuitive, and that’s okay. The main thing is there’s a lesson in this for you, and that lesson is for you to be able to take up space in a conversation, for you to set boundaries on what is appropriate behavior and what is not appropriate behavior, and most importantly, for you to communicate your feelings as well if that is necessary.
The next thing I want to talk to you about is how to handle this if something like this happens and you feel drained afterwards. One is it’s important to take back your energy. If you notice that you’re feeling drained because someone just dumped all their crap onto you, pause, get into your heart, and give yourself permission to shine your light brightly. So you’re just breathing sunshine in, breathing happiness in, breathing in love, and allow your heart to smile, ground and root, and remind you’re safe. It is not your responsibility to hold on to other people’s junk as well. This little practice can take One minute, two minutes, might take a little bit longer depending on how you feel, but it’s really important to take up space, claim your sovereignty, and claim your light. Also, you can literally imagine you have a box full of their junk, and you’re just handing it energetically back to them. So it’s not your responsibility to hold on to anymore. These are really quick, easy ways to take back your energy and fill yourself back up with love and light as well. Let me know in the comments if this was helpful.
Let me know if you have any other questions about energy vampires and how to deal with them as well. Please like and share this with a friend, and I look forward to seeing you in the next one. Take care. Bye.
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