Have you ever had one of those mornings where nothing seems to work?
Maybe you stayed up all night worrying about the day ahead.
We’ve all had mornings like that—where you didn’t get enough sleep, or you woke up in a great mood only to have everything start going sideways.
When you have a bad day, it’s easy to spiral into the thoughts attached to why something isn’t working.
It’s also important not to slip into excuses.
And here’s where I’m going to contradict myself completely—so stick with me.
Sometimes there are reasons why things don’t go right.
Sometimes it’s spirit, the universe, encouraging you to pause, to look at things differently, to be open to support, and to consider a new perspective.
We can get tunnel vision, believing there’s only one way something can happen.
“This is the only way I can get it done.”
Then we start going into excuses.
It sounds contradictory—because we don’t want to lean into excuses—but there are valid reasons why things just don’t work.
It’s not about ignoring the obvious, because sometimes things truly don’t work and there is a real reason why.
But I also believe that sometimes those inconveniences, those nuances, those moments where things aren’t working are divine.
This can be a divine invitation to pause and reassess what’s really important.
Spirit may be protecting you or inviting you to see through a different lens.
Whatever the case may be, I want to choose my reaction.
Everything in life comes down to our own reactions.
We are creating our own universe.
Our universe is within the universe, and that universe is held within us.
When we truly see that we have control over the chaos in our life—which sounds like a contradiction—we take our power back.
Embracing emotions during these moments can help you navigate the chaos with more clarity, and nervous system awareness makes that choice even more powerful.
We have the ultimate power to choose how we react.
This is a daily practice.
Things don’t always go as expected—but there’s a reason they don’t.
I think about those moments when you leave the house ten minutes late, frustrated you’re running behind, only to realize you avoided a major accident.
When you have a bad day, there might be a hidden blessing you can’t see yet.
There are reasons for delays.
There are reasons for frustration.
It’s not because spirit is out to get you.
It’s not always because of a trauma response, though those do exist.
It’s an opportunity to explore who we are and why we react in certain ways.
Can I choose something that serves my highest good in the moment instead of default mode?
We are programmed to default—to overreact, underreact, downplay, overplay, or sit somewhere in between.
Whatever the spectrum, every situation is an opportunity for growth.
When we recognize that, we reclaim our power, our control, and our ability to create a new experience.
I got some interesting news on test results recently.
Part of me was baffled.
Part of me was mad—really mad.
Another part of me thought, “I expected that.”
The test results do not define who I am.
What defines me is my reaction.
My reactions shape my reality.
If I choose to play victim, my life will reflect that.
If I choose empowerment, I’ll create space for empowering options to show up.
And sometimes, your reaction in the moment might be deep grief, sadness, anger, or rage.
There is sacredness in sadness.
There is sacredness in rage.
There is sacredness in madness.
It’s only when those feelings consume you that they become unhealthy.
Feel your feelings.
Then move into a reaction you consciously choose.
Embracing emotions in these hard times is a form of self-compassion and strength.
When my daughter has a big meltdown, I’ll ask, “Do you want a reset?”
Sometimes she says yes.
Sometimes she says no because she’s still moving through her emotions.
It’s always a choice.
We can reset a day.
We can reset a moment.
When you have a bad day, hitting the reset button is one of the most powerful things you can do.
You’re always choosing—whether it’s the present, the past, or future possibilities.
Choosing to feel your feelings in the moment is healthy.
It opens space for a different choice later.
When you’re ready to reset, you can choose something empowering—something that feels good—without bypassing your nervous system’s message that something is wrong.
Resetting works best when it’s combined with embracing emotions instead of avoiding them.
When you’re having a character-building moment and reacting from a trauma response, notice it.
This is how your nervous system and brain have been wired.
Maybe you’re overly defensive.
Maybe you collapse.
Maybe you posture.
Maybe you freeze.
Whatever it is, instead of going into the story, be the observer.
When you have a bad day, observation creates breathing room.
Say to yourself, “I just responded how I normally would respond.”
Then ask, “How do I actually want to respond?”
You have the opportunity to choose differently.
We are not permanently programmed to be one way.
We can rewire our brains.
We can change default responses—including trauma responses.
Each trauma response often belongs to a persona—a part of you—that once kept you safe.
When you choose to be the observer of your reality and get curious about your reactions and thoughts, you can shift your personality for the better.
You get to keep the parts of yourself that are amazing.
You get to keep what uplifts you.
And you get to release what no longer serves your highest good.
I call this “lovingly letting go” or “lovingly letting die.”
Because we have many rebirths and many deaths in our lifetime.
When you allow certain aspects of your personality or identity to be released, you rise like the Phoenix through the ashes.
Embracing emotions here allows you to process and integrate rather than resist.
You get to choose you.
You get to choose how you view your reality.
You get to choose how you write the script for your life.
It’s personal to you.
It’s personal to your experiences.
When you have a bad day, your choice still counts.
So when those moments come, will you choose a reset?
Will you choose curiosity?
Will you choose a different reaction?
Before you do anything else, choose to feel your feelings.
This honors your nervous system.
This honors your inner child.
It allows you to go deeper into curiosity, deeper into healing, deeper into yourself.
Feel your emotions.
Release them.
Have compassion for yourself.
Have empathy for yourself.
Especially when you have a bad day, offer yourself the gentleness you offer others.
Then choose what you truly want to experience—rather than letting life just happen to you.
With love and blessings,
Amy Robeson
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Hey, Amy Robeson here. Thank you for joining me on this podcast where we talk about spirituality, the awakening process, mental health, and so much more. Join me weekly to get your weekly dose of spirituality and medicine. I look forward to seeing you on the inside. Hello, and welcome to today’s episode. I’m so excited you are here Have you ever had one of those mornings where nothing seems to work? Maybe you even stayed up all night worrying about the next day. Whatever the case is, is we all have mornings like that, where either you didn’t get enough sleep or maybe you woke up in a great mood and nothing seems to be going your way. The key is not to go into the spiral, whatever thoughts that are attached to why maybe something isn’t working. It’s also important to not go into excuses. And I’m going to say that slightly different where I’m going to totally contradict myself and what I’m about to say, but stick with me. Sometimes there are reasons why things don’t go right. Sometimes it’s spirit, the universe, encouraging to pause, to look at things a little differently, to be open to support, to also be open to looking at it from a different angle or a different perspective.
Sometimes we get straight tunnel vision where this is the only way it’s going to happen. This is the only way I can get it done. And then we start going into excuses. And this is where the contradiction sounds strange because we don’t want to go into excuses, but there are reasons why things just don’t work, right? So it’s not about not voicing the obvious because sometimes things just don’t work, and there is a valid reason why they are not working. But I also believe that sometimes those inconveniences, those nuances, those reasons why things aren’t working is because there is a divine reason for it. And oftentimes spirit is either protecting you or inviting you to see through a different lens. And for me, whatever the case is, I want to have a choice to choose my reaction. Everything in life comes down to our own reactions. We are the ones that are creating our own universe. We are the ones that are creating our own reality. Our universe is within the universe, and that universe is held within us. And when we actually see that we have complete control over the utter chaos in our life, which sounds like a contradiction again, we then take our power back.
So let me say that slightly different. We have the ultimate power to choose how we are reacting. I feel like this is a daily occurrence for us all. Things don’t go as expected, but there’s a reason why they’re not going as expected. I often think about, if you decided to wait 10 minutes to leave your house and you’re upset that you were late, but because you decided to leave your house 10 minutes, you avoided a massive car accident. There are reasons why there are delays. There are reasons why we are set to have a frustrating moment. And it’s not because spirit is out to get you, and it’s not because it is all your trauma response, because we do have trauma responses. But it is an opportunity to explore who we are and why we react this certain way. And can I choose something that serves my highest good in the moment and not fall into default mode? And I think so often we are so programmed to fall into default mode on how we are reacting, how we are choosing to underreact or overreact or downplay or overplay or whatever the case It could be both ends of the spectrum.
It could be somewhere in between. It could be somewhere towards one end of the spectrum, someone towards the other end of the spectrum, whatever the case is. Any given situation is an opportunity for growth. And when we recognize that, we take back our power, we take back our control, we choose to have a different different experience. I got some interesting news the other day on some test results that I had. A part of me A part of me, when I was reading the test results, were baffled. Another part of me was mad, really mad. And then there was another part of me that was like, I expected that. The test results do not define who I am. What defines who I am is my reactions because my reactions define my reality. And because my reactions define my reality, those reactions are going to set precedence of what my reality is going to continue to look like. So if If I choose to play victim, it’s going to be like that. If I choose to feel empowered, I’m going to have empowering options show up in my path. Please note that sometimes our reaction in the moment can be a great grief, of great sadness, of great anger, of great rage, whatever it is, because There’s sacredness in sadness, there’s sacredness in rage, there’s sacredness in madness as well.
And it’s when it consumes you is when it becomes unhealthy. And so please note, I’m telling you to feel your feelings and then move into a reaction that you choose to have because everything is a choice. And when you choose to go into sadness first, that is beautiful because you’re honoring those feelings. And then you get to brush yourself off, you get to wipe away the tears, and then you get to choose something else. I’ll often say to my daughter when she’s having an utter meltdown and when she’s done having a meltdown because she’s four, that’s how you process emotions. I think it would be healthy if adults did this, too, when they were feeling it. It would be quite comical to see every adult acting like a child. However, I think instead of our nervous systems being so dysregulated all the time, it would actually be a healthy release really quickly and for us to move back into regulation. All jokes aside, I always ask her when she’s done and when it feels like the right moment, would you like to have a reset? Because this is letting her know, Hey, We have the opportunity to reset the day.
We have the opportunity to reset the moment. Do you want to reset? Sometimes she’ll say yes, and sometimes she’s still crossing her big emotions, and she’ll tell me no. And that’s the beautiful thing, is it’s always a choice, and it’s always a choice for us to have a reset. You are either choosing life in the moment, you’re choosing the past for whatever reason, or you’re choosing future possibilities. Whatever the case is, everything comes down to choice. And I think choosing in the moment to feel your feelings is a very healthy way to choose something different for future possibilities. And once you’re in a place to do a raise set, then you get to choose something empowering, something that feels good without bypassing your nervous system that is trying to tell you there is something wrong. Now, let’s go back to thinking about when you are having a character building moment or character building day, and you are responding from a trauma response, meaning this is the way your nervous system is wired, this is the way your brain is wired, and you are responding in a way that you are used to responding. Maybe you’re overly defensive, maybe you collapse, maybe you posture, maybe you freeze, whatever the case is.
Instead of going into story, I want you to be the observer. I want you to go, I just responded how I normally would respond. Okay. Taking a note. How do I actually want to respond? If I take my trauma response and I go, this is how I normally respond. How do I actually want to respond? Because you have the opportunity to choose a different response. We are not indefinitely programmed to be a certain way. We have the ability to rewire our brain. We have the ability to rewire set responses, which can be trauma responses. And we have the ability to change personas. We see that’s slightly different. If you’re in a trauma response, there is a set personality, a set persona that is the one reacting in that particular way, because that is what kept you safe for all these years. And when you choose to be the observer of your reality and you get super, super curious about why you’re reacting in a particular way and why you’re thinking in a particular way, you have the opportunity to completely change your personality for the better, because you’re going to keep the parts of your personality that are amazing, and you’re going keep the parts that uplift you, and you’re going to start looking at the parts that do not serve your highest good anymore, that are in a place to be released.
I call this lovingly let go, lovingly let to die, because we have many rebursts and we have many deaths in our lifetime. And it’s when you give yourself the opportunity to let aspects of your being, certain parts of your personality, certain parts of your identity, go and lovingly let them die. You get to be the Phoenix rising through the ashes. You get to choose you. You get to choose how you view your reality. You get to choose how you’re writing your script for your personal movie, your personal life, your It’s your personal personality. It is personal to you. It’s personal to your experiences. And you get to choose that, my friend. You do. So the question is, whenever you are having one of those moments Are you going to choose a reset? Are you going to choose to get curious? Are you going to choose a different reaction? Most importantly, before you go through all those choices, I want to remind you, choose to feel Feel your feelings first because this honors you. This honors your nervous system. This honors your inner child. And this allows you to go deeper into curiosity, deeper into your healing, deeper into yourself because you get to feel those emotions, release it, have compassion for yourself, have deep empathy for yourself, and start choosing what you truly want to experience versus allowing it to happen to you.
All right, my friend, I hope you’ve enjoyed today’s episode. Please make sure you like and subscribe. Share this with a friend. See you soon. Take care. Bye.
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