Episode 194: Making Difficult Decisions: Embracing Change & Honest Self-Reflection

Hello, everyone. Welcome to the Awakening with Amy Robeson Live experience. I’m so excited for today’s live. Let’s talk about making difficult decisions. If you’re on here, you’re watching live, say hello, let me know where you’re tuning in from, how you’re doing as well. I was thinking about what I wanted to chat about today, and this topic kept coming up for me as I was tuning into the energy. And I feel like this is a really important time to talk about making difficult decisions is because we’re It’s towards the end of the year. We’re going to start making new goals for the new year. And making difficult decisions can sometimes be a character building moment for some people, I think for a lot of us, just because there’s a level of brutal honesty that has to take place. Let me pull this in here. There’s a level of brutal honesty that has to take place. And And what that means is you have to do a review. You don’t have to do anything, but there’s an invitation to do a review on what’s working for you and what’s not working for you. And sometimes what’s not working for you is easy to identify, but it’s hard to make difficult decisions on how to change what’s not working for you.

And those difficult decisions might be letting go of something or adding something or transitioning out of something or transitioning into something. And it just really depends on what it is. And also making difficult decisions can be a moment where you have to look at your blind spots. You have to look at your shortcomings. You have to look at and be willing to be honest with yourself on where things are really, truly at and where you truly want them to be. Is there something that you really wanted this year and it didn’t come to fruition? Let me know in the comments. Is there something that you really wanted, but it just didn’t pan out yet? And I’m using the word yet because sometimes our goals and our inspirations can take many years for them to come to fruition, while others, they can come really quickly, really swiftly, and they’re like, Bam, Bam, Bam. I’m here. I’m available for you. But then there’s times where something For me, it just takes a while. And for me, I have been doing a lot of reviews for my business, and I’ve had to really be honest with myself that I’m wanting something I’m expecting different results, but I’m doing some of the things that are similar, yet I’m wanting this drastic change to happen.

And the truth is, a drastic change will not happen unless I do something drastic that’s different than what I’ve been doing or doing something completely different. Maybe it’s not as drastic, but maybe it’s completely different to get a different result. And And I feel that this has taken me a while, just to be even honest with myself, that I’m blinded by what my expectations are and why my expectations are there as well sometimes. Someone said, How do you get overcome or get beyond slacking Amy, what do you mean by that? Let me know. Good afternoon, guys. Let me know how you’re doing, how you’re feeling. What do you mean by that, Amy? Joanne’s. Let me know. When it comes to making difficult decisions, you’ll want to do a review on what decisions you’ve made in the past for that particular thing or particular relationship relationship or that particular organization. And did they work out for you? And is it working out? And what is it that you truly want? And sometimes a difficult decision can be, I For lack of a better word, a difficult decision can be easy if you give yourself permission to do what you’re being guided to do.

It’s getting to the decision part that can sometimes feel super difficult. So sometimes we drag our feet because we don’t want to make the decision, but we know in our heart what the right decision is, but we’re dragging our feet, dragging our feet, dragging our feet, dragging our feet, dragging our feet, and that’s what makes it difficult. But if you just listen and you followed your heart and you made the decision and you ripped the bandaid off quickly, it can become very easy. Sometimes a decision is difficult to make and difficult through the whole process, even if you are excited about making the decision. I’ll give the example of breaking up. Sometimes a couple will break up, a romantic couple will break up, or even a platonic friendship. Someone might know like, Hey, I know this relationship is no longer You’re serving me, but I don’t want to let this person go, but I know that it’s the best thing for me to do. And then you just go back and forth, back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. And so it gets shrug on. But if you just rip the bandaid off and you make a decision, sometimes it can still feel heartbreaking to make that decision.

And then you can always reevaluate later on as well. I also find that Relationships sometimes are very complicated, especially if you’ve been in a relationship with people for a really long time and you start growing in different directions. It doesn’t mean that person’s bad or you’re bad. Sometimes it’s just the relationship is complete and you’re growing in different directions. And when you grow in different directions, the path no longer has to be together. Also know that there are people there that you can have lifelong friends where you go really long time without talking to them, and you can pick right back up where you left off. And it’s absolutely beautiful. Let me see. You said I go in 100, but I guess maybe I get burnt out or I’m trying too much multitasking and I just slow everything down. I’m not sure if that’s the best way to explain it. Yes, I totally get What do you mean. So you’re going, going, going, going, going, you overdo it, then you get burnt out, and then you go into like, I’m not able to do it anymore. And the word that you are using is slacking.

So this is where making a difficult decision, you can look at your behaviors in the past and how they’ve served you and how they didn’t serve you. Sometimes people that have ADHD, they thrive on last minute doing things, or sometimes people love to have that deadline to get things done. And so whatever the case is and whatever types of behaviors one has, the main thing is, is you want to find a system that works for you, where you aren’t going into burn out mode. Because burn out mode is not fun, and it’s extremely hard to get motivated when you are in burn out mode. I also think it’s really important to recognize the ebbs and flows of how our bodies operate and how sometimes it feels good to go, go, go, go, go is just needing rest. And so I feel that when it comes to being honest, it takes time to evaluate what has worked in the past in regards to, let’s say, a project and getting things done, what has worked efficiently, what did not work at all, and how can you change those behaviors so they are more efficient, where you can still have this Balancing of energy and you don’t burn yourself out.

And I’ll give an example. So I host retreats. I’ve hosted retreats since 2017. And I love hosting retreats. Every single time I host a live retreat, I learn something new about the process. And I have to be honest with myself, where my shortcomings are, what I didn’t do well with, what I would like to improve upon. And then I make a list of what went well, what would I do different, and then I make an actual list so I can remember and We’ll come back to it later on. We do this for all of our launches as well. And it’s just because what ends up happening is you forget and then you go into another project later on, then this could be something regarding cleaning your house. This could be something regarding any different little project that you do, maybe birthday parties or helping family or whatever. You can evaluate what worked and what didn’t work and what is the game plan for next time so that you don’t have the same hiccup, so you don’t have the same issue, so you don’t have the same problem. When you make a list and you keep it in a place that’s easy for to find again and it’s labeled properly, so you have an organization of it, it’s very, very helpful.

Also, understanding what your expectations are versus what the true reality of the situation is can be extremely helpful. I think sometimes people often overlook the amount of time something takes or the amount of energy something takes. And if you realize that, Hey, I do do really well with short bursts of energy, and then I need to take a break on day three, that’s helpful for you to know when you’re wanting to tackle any project, and you can plan accordingly then as well. We were just talking to some friends that just got back from Disney, and one of them, there was a group of us that were talking. One family They just got back. They did Disney every single day from open to close, and they were so exhausted by the time they got back. And then another one of my friends was talking about how when they do Disney, they go for a day, then the next day, they spend the day at the pool, and then they go for a day at the park, and then the next day, they spend the day at the pool. And so they’re not going into burnout. I think there’s so often times where we have to make difficult decisions decisions.

And sometimes the difficult decision is actually recognizing that there’s a fear of missing out on something, that there’s a fear of, if I don’t do all this all at once, I’m not going to be able to get it all done or I’m going to miss out on something really good, and I want to get the most out of my money, and I want to get the most out of this time. But sometimes our bodies are like, I don’t want to do that. I don’t feel good doing that that many days in a row. I know that for us, we were invited to a Halloween party, and Halloween was during the week this week, this year, and the party was quite far away. And we would have to drive home at night, and I get carsick. And driving home back from that particular town, back to our town, I knew that I was going to be carsick, and I knew that my physical body would not appreciate sitting in the car feeling nauseous for 45 minutes. And so as much as I wanted to go, and as much as I had that fear missing out, my physical body was like, heck, no, please don’t do that to me.

And so you have I just want to just be really honest with yourself on what works and what doesn’t work as well. Let’s read some of these comments. Change can be scary. Shanna says, Change can be scary because the new isn’t known yet. Absolutely. For sure, for sure. Ellie said, yes, wanting to grow several online businesses. I started, but it’s been slow, and I also have increasingly been distracted by life’s daily stresses. I also struggle with, I am skilled, smart, etc. Enough. Yeah, I think that sometimes when you are an entrepreneur, you are starting projects because you can be a full-time caregiver, and there’s lots of projects to or you could be a full-time stay-at-home mom or stay-at-home dad. And there’s lots of things to manage and run. And it’s finding that balance between all of the areas of your life where it feels really good. And then also making room for distractions. I think that so often we underestimate that life is just going to throw you a curve ball. And if you make some space space to just breathe in your calendar and you do have a curve ball be thrown at you, you have the space to take a look at that.

I really do think not packing your day full Monday through Friday, Monday through Sunday, every single week, having every hour plan can be really, really stressful for some people, but some people thrive on that, and some people thrive on structure. And I do believe that structure is important because I know for me, I couldn’t get half the stuff done if I didn’t have structure in my life. But I do schedule time for nothing. And I know that sounds so strange. I’m scheduling time for nothing. But if I didn’t schedule time for nothing, I would pack something in there. That’s just my personality as well. T said, I do the same thing or it’s because too much to deal with or I find something else to do, find it difficult to continue, follow through after starting great. Yeah, that happens. That totally happens. Let’s see. Ellie also said she’s struggling with staying consistent, I’m getting overwhelmed, or seeing little results. Here is the thing when it comes to seeing results. You have no clue what the universe has in store for you. And when you are putting in the effort, you might be one day away from hitting a big breakthrough, or you might be weeks away or months away from hitting a big breakthrough.

My thing is, if I follow the energy that my heart is being guided to follow, that spirit is encouraging me to follow, I know that everything is going to work out the way it is meant to work out, and that I have to get out of my own way if I want it to work out. Also, If you are a person that likes to do, do, do, do, do down to see what is going on and what is working and what is not working, you are going to continue to get the same results. And making the space is not only beyond necessary, it is a crucial step in success because you can’t see certain things, or you can’t be honest with yourself, or you can’t make difficult decisions if you don’t slow to look at everything that’s going on around you and within me, you. Because you could be doing something that you absolutely think you are supposed to be doing, but inside, because you haven’t slowed down, your internal systems are like, I don’t enjoy this. I don’t like doing this. This is not in alignment with me. But you are so used to doing it that you are missing all of those cues.

Also, sometimes people really want to do something different, but they have so many fears that it’s not going to work out or if I do that, then I’m not going to make money, or if I do that, you can just fill in the blank. And the key is, is those are possibly true fears, but you can also look at it as, if I did what is the opportunity for me to win? If I did this, what is the opportunity for my health? If I did this, what is the opportunity for my spiritual growth? If I did this, what is the opportunity for my family? My this, my that, whatever. You also want to look at what the opportunity cost is versus just the one or two fears that you have around it. And I know for me, for very long time, I personally had this… I kept telling myself a lie that was a really big lie. I thought that if I ever left my my previous career, there was no way I could ever replace my income. There’s no way that I could have the lifestyle that I already had. And it was a lie.

It was a big fat lie that I kept telling myself because I just didn’t know what I didn’t know. And that’s the thing is you don’t know what you don’t know, and you don’t know if that fear is truly true. And so if you Stop and be honest with yourself on what the other opportunity costs are. If you stay in that position or you stay with that thing or you continue to do that thing, what are you doing to yourself? What other opportunities are you costing yourself by continuing to do the same thing when you know your heart is leading you somewhere else or wanting you to do something else as well? And it’s really interesting when you look at it from that perspective. And for me, what I had to do was… I think my internet is being a little goofy. For For me, what I had to do was I had to take a look at just giving it a try to see if that was even true. And I made myself a promise, even if it was true, my happiness was worth more than my deep, deep sadness that I was experiencing because I wasn’t doing what I was meant to be doing, and I was overdoing what I was doing.

I knew that I was meant to be doing something different, and I knew that in my heart. And I knew that the moment I took that, stepped into that career, it meant to only do it for three years because I just knew. I just knew in my heart that that’s not what was my forever thing to do. And you You know or you sense it, and you got to be honest with yourself on what that is. And I’m not telling you to go out there and make these drastic changes. The first step is just being honest with yourself and looking at what’s working and what’s not working and looking at all the fears and looking at the opportunity cause because that will assist you in making a better decision on how to move forward and move forward with grace, move forward with love, move forward with excitement for the future. Because when you’re excited about the future in the present moment, the future is going to turn out being exciting. If you are struggling and you are nervous about the future and you constantly worry about the future in the present moment, that is what you are going to create in the future unless you shift your frequency, shift your consciousness, shift your thoughts, and shift the way that you are perceiving as well.

But it starts with being honest, and it starts with looking at your internal systems and your internal thoughts and your internal everything, your internal everything as well. I’m not going to And Avanha says, I see as a curve ball, time out to relax when someone cancels last minute session. I agree with 100 %. Belinda said, Thank you. I’m finding it now just realizing I’m on 25 % spiritual energy. Take a break, Belinda. Take a break. It’s going to help you feel so much better. Out of the spiritual closet, Dawn said, Yes, the distractions end up throwing off my flow very often. Yes. So when it comes to distractions, I will check in to see if that is worth me to move around or to do or to experience. And the reason why is if I check in, then I’m not just doing… I’m not responding from an obligation standpoint. Sometimes we are so entranced or we are in a hypnotic state of response. And what do I mean by that? We go through motions in life in a hypnotic state. And one of the reasons why I love light language so much is light language will assist you in getting out of a hypnotic state.

And so if you are in robot mode where you’re just moving through life in a hypnotic state and you are responding from a subconscious response because it’s used to you doing X, Y, Z for people, or for things, or places, or whatever, you’re going to continue to get the same result, and you’re also going to respond from the place that you… From an internal system the way you’ve always responded. So let me say that’s slightly different. So if If you are a people pleaser and somebody comes to you and has this problem, and they’re not even asking you to solve the problem, your subconscious goes, We got to solve that problem. Let’s start giving advice. Let’s start volunteering to help. Even though the person did not actually ask for you to volunteer, but you are so used to responding in that way where you, Let me solve this problem I have the answers. And it’s very subconscious. Sometimes it’s conscious, but it’s very subconscious where all of a sudden you obligated yourself to something that wasn’t your job. And of course, the person is going to take it because why not? Why wouldn’t someone want your help?

And you’re volunteering your help, so why not? And so this hypnotic states that we get into, and I’m saying states with an S because there’s all sorts of different hypnotic states that we can get ourselves into. When we stop and are very honest with ourselves and looking at why we might be responding in that way, which might be a trauma response. It might be a learned behavior. It might be a pattern. It might be something that you started doing because of a job you start. Who knows? There’s so many different reasons why we behave the way that we behave. And so when we start evaluating it, and being honest with ourselves so we can then start making changes as well. Amy said, Anybody want to be accountability partners? I think having an accountability partner is really amazing. Amazing, amazing. Hi, Danny. Maria, how are you doing with grief? I am still processing grief. I think grief is very, very complicated. If you just saw our previous episode that was released this week, and I talk about grief and how when my family members just died, it’s hard. So I’m still in my numb stage. I’m waiting for my anger stage to pop up.

It’s coming. I can feel it. Dawn said, I used to love being a fixer. Not anymore. I only have space for their sessions. Beautiful. Yes. You’re not responsible for fixing anybody. Everybody’s responsible for fixing themselves. And you can have someone that wants to support. You can have someone that you can see in an empowered light, but they are in charge of empowering themselves. You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink, right? And that’s the same Same thing for your family, your friends, your colleagues, your coworkers. You might see their greatness, but it is not your job to fix them, just like they might see your greatness, and it’s not their job to fix you as well. And I think it’s really, really important to recognize that. So as we’re moving into the holidays and moving into the new year, sit with us. Sit with this. Journal about it. Ask yourself some challenging questions, Because when you challenge yourself, what will happen is even if you don’t get the answer right away, you’ll start sitting with this idea of making space for information to come through, spirit to support me so that I can make the changes that I want, and I can experience what I want to experience and have the life that I want to have.

But I got to make space for this review, and it is a review. Dawn said, Grief is so hard, and we don’t talk about death enough in life. Yes, I agree, and I think I might do an episode on this. I think that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, and most people don’t know what the right or wrong way is, even though there is no right or wrong way. And everybody is so different when it comes to what and how they grieve and whom or what they’re grieving is also very different from situation or person as well. And so there is no cookie cutter or mathematical or checklist on what that looks like. And it’s so complicated and it requires a ton of grace and a ton of compassion, an awareness of where you’re at and what is available to you at that moment in time in terms of processing your grief as well. So I hope that’s helpful. All right, my friends, I hope you enjoyed today’s episode. I have the schedule up. So if you want to look at the schedule, we have our YouTube, our live experience that is going to be on…

Our next one will be on November 27th at 1:30 PM central. December fifth will be at 2:00 PM central, December 12th will be… I might switch the 12th because I’m thinking I might want to do Friday the 13th as well. What do you Do you want to do a Friday 13th? Let me know. Someone said, Thank you. Anna said, Thank you for your work around grief. I just listened to your free gift regarding releasing grief for the last 10 years. It was so powerful. Thank you. You’re welcome, my dear. Yeah, if anybody wants access to that, it’s absolutely free. You just go to https://theamyrobeson.com/free. It’s our sacred gifts is what it’s called. And there’s 20 plus free healings. There’s a money healing, there’s a grief healing, there’s There’s all sorts of different healings in there. But that grief one, I made that in a time when I was grieving something super complicated. So grief is so complicated. So if you want access to that, go ahead and access that. Yeah, I think I’m going to do Friday the 13th, so December 13th. Also, do me a favor, like this video and make sure you subscribe on YouTube or follow on Facebook.

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