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This episode will show you how to embrace change positively by shifting your mindset and facing fears. Learn how surrendering to change can lead to unexpected blessings and personal growth.
In life, you are going to experience change.
The question is, how can you befriend change in a way that allows you to surrender to it?
One powerful example of surrendering to change in my business practice is how I handle last-minute cancellations.
When a client cancels unexpectedly, instead of getting upset, I view it as a gift of time.
Yes, it might be annoying initially, but I’ve come to accept that the space created in my schedule is often exactly what I need.
Whether it’s time for my mind, body, and soul to rest, or just an opportunity to catch up on other tasks, I’ve learned to embrace this unexpected change.
I maintain good boundaries with my clients, and when something shifts suddenly, I welcome the change.
The universe often has its way of reminding us to take a break, breathe, or focus on something we’ve been neglecting.
Whether it’s taking a nap, going for a walk, or catching up on emails, I celebrate these moments.
This practice of embracing change in my daily routine when a cancellation occurs can extend into other areas of life as well.
By accepting change, we can fully experience the journey, no matter where it takes us.
When we surrender to the possibility of change, we’re granting ourselves a different kind of control.
I like using the word “control” because, in this context, it means controlling how we react to change, how we navigate through it, and the steps we take both during and after the change.
By choosing to embrace change rather than resist it, we avoid being stuck in emotions that don’t serve our highest good.
If you resist, you might find yourself wallowing in unhelpful emotions or missing the valuable lessons that come with the experience.
Surrendering is an act of kindness to yourself.
It’s about letting go of the battles with your mental body, ego, inner child, and physical body.
While going through change might bring feelings of angst, nervousness, or fear, those emotions are often part of the process.
However, once you give yourself permission to surrender, it’s amazing how liberating it feels.
Embracing change allows you to move forward without the inner struggle, fully accepting the growth and learning that come with the experience.
There was a time when I worked in the car business as a finance manager, and I craved change.
I wanted a shift in my life, so I made the bold decision to move to a different state.
But as I began to plan, I realized that this decision wasn’t the right one for me.
Even though I had already announced my plans to everyone, deep down, I knew that moving wasn’t what I was supposed to do.
What I truly needed was a break from work, and when I finally took that break, it was so well-deserved and felt so good.
It took a lot of heart and guts to admit that I had changed my mind.
Sometimes, we make decisions around change, and then we change our minds, but we might feel embarrassed about what others will think or say.
For me, that initial decision to move became the catalyst for taking a much-needed break.
It was the right choice, even though I didn’t go through with the move.
I stayed where I was, took the time I needed, and when I was ready, I returned to work—just at a different dealership.
However, this new dealership wasn’t a good fit for me.
I didn’t care for the culture or get along well with some of the people there, though it wasn’t because they were bad people; our personalities just clashed.
I missed my old dealership and wanted to go back.
One day, a sales manager pointed out to me, “Do you realize you say you want to go home every day?”
She was right, and it was a wake-up call for me.
I immediately called our VP and asked if I could be transferred back.
Initially, I sought a change of scenery, but I realized that the change I made was only temporary.
I felt more comfortable and at home going back to where I was before.
Change can be complicated, with all the different decisions involved, but in this case, the VP agreed to my transfer, and I was welcomed back with open arms.
It was an awesome experience, and I worked there until I decided to transition back to school and pursue other opportunities.
No matter what, there are always big emotions and big feelings connected to the changes you make and the decisions you take.
By choosing to embrace change, even when it’s complex or unexpected, you allow yourself to navigate these emotions and grow from the experience.
It’s all about accepting change and understanding that sometimes, the path you choose may lead you right back to where you started, but with a renewed sense of purpose and clarity.
The key to change is surrender and honesty with yourself.
The more honest you are about what’s happening within you and what you truly want, the easier it becomes to navigate the changes you seek or are required to face.
Sometimes, change is something we actively pursue, but other times, it’s thrown upon us without any warning or discussion with the universe.
For example, a loved one might get into a car accident and suddenly need your assistance and support while they heal.
This kind of temporary change lands on your lap without any preparation.
You can’t predict or fully prepare for such unexpected events.
While you might have plans in place for emergencies, how you navigate those moments in real time is something you can never fully anticipate.
In these situations, it’s essential to embrace change, even when it’s challenging, and accept that the path forward may not always be clear.
By surrendering to the moment and being honest with yourself about your capabilities and desires, you can manage these unexpected changes with grace and resilience.
When you are going through change and navigating it, it’s crucial to ask yourself questions.
Ask how you’re feeling, and be honest about whether you’re scared and what exactly you’re scared of.
When you answer the question, “What am I scared of?” it’s like taking the boogeyman out of the closet or pulling them out from underneath the bed.
You’re no longer hiding from the fear but addressing it head-on.
By confronting your fear directly, you can unpack it in a way that empowers you, giving you a sense of control and responsibility for how you’ll navigate the change moving forward.
This process also helps you figure out your next steps.
For instance, if you’re scared of navigating this change and discover that your fear is rooted in the possibility of failure, the next question to ask is, “Why am I scared of failing?”
Following this line of inquiry might lead you to realize that you don’t feel prepared, or you struggle with impostor syndrome, or perhaps you’re afraid of being seen.
These are all things you can then work on, either on your own or with the help of someone else.
By embracing change and accepting these fears as part of the process, you allow yourself to grow and learn, making the path forward clearer and more manageable.
When I was navigating the transition from my previous career to what I do now, I was absolutely terrified.
I was scared of losing my income, worried about what people would think of me, and deeply afraid of failing.
The more I sat and wallowed in those fears, the longer it took me to take the leap of faith.
But when I finally decided to take action and declared, “I’m going to do this no matter what,” things began to shift.
I didn’t overcome my fears overnight; instead, I started addressing them slowly but surely as they crept up.
Each time a fear arose, I faced it head-on, which allowed me to make the necessary changes in my life.
This process was crucial in becoming the person I wanted to be and doing the things I wanted to do.
Embracing change and accepting the fears that come with it is essential for growth.
By acknowledging and working through these fears, you create space for the transformation you seek, allowing you to step into your true potential.
Change isn’t just about external circumstances; it can also be about the way you communicate with yourself.
This is why it’s crucial to be honest with yourself when it comes to self-worth, self-esteem, and feeling good enough.
What you say to yourself throughout the day dictates whether you are going to change for the better or the worse.
If you’re constantly talking negatively about your weight, your intelligence, or your financial situation, you’re sending signals to the universe that you don’t want to change those aspects of your life.
Instead, you’re keeping them ingrained in your reality.
The more you realize that your words are creating your reality and potentially keeping you stagnant, the more you have the opportunity to stop saying the things that are causing you harm.
I had a conversation with a friend the other day, and this friend kept talking negatively about their body, weight, and confidence.
I finally said to them, “I want you to make a pact—not one negative word about yourself for the rest of the day.”
Instantly, this person started making excuses for why they needed to beat themselves up, which comes down to self-worth.
I’m guilty of this myself.
For a long time, I would make fun of my intelligence, my ability to know certain things, and my confidence.
When I started working on shifting my mindset and changing the way I spoke to myself, I stopped saying those harmful things.
I began to feel more confident and more connected with myself in a different way.
But first, I had to surrender to the fact that I was doing those harmful things to myself, and that can be a hard pill to swallow.
I want to encourage you to pay attention to the words you use, especially when it comes to change.
My friend eventually admitted, “You’re so right. I am doing that.”
Sometimes, we need someone to call us out because we can get so stuck in a loop, repeating patterns that have become normal for us.
Whether it’s in our vocabulary, thoughts, actions, or reactions, these patterns can hurt us and keep us from embracing change.
You deserve to experience change in a positive or at least a neutral way.
Your words can either lift you up and help you rise, or they can knock you down and keep you stuck.
By being mindful of what you say to yourself, you empower yourself to accept change and move forward in a way that serves your highest good.
A good example of resisting change is when someone says, “Over my dead body.”
It’s a clear sign that they are not open to the possibility of change.
But the reality is, sometimes change is inevitable, and sometimes it’s essential.
I know that some of the biggest changes in my life didn’t come without fears, without big emotions, or without all the mixed feelings that accompany such transitions.
You can be super excited about change and yet really scared to embrace it at the same time.
This fear can cause you to drag your feet, leading to missed opportunities because you were too scared to take that leap of faith.
When faced with change, whatever the course may be, it’s important to ask yourself what you’re fearful of.
Then, keep asking yourself why, so you can navigate the change you want to have—or the change that’s been thrust upon you.
By doing this, you can identify the support and help you need to make the transition smoother.
Even if change feels hard in the beginning, in the long run, it always brings a blessing with it.
Embrace change, accept change, and trust that the process will lead you to something better, even if it doesn’t feel that way at first.
Even if we don’t see it right away, even if the change feels gut-wrenching, there is always a blessing that you will be rewarded with in the end—no matter what the circumstance is.
I want to emphasize this point because sometimes we face changes that are incredibly challenging, such as the loss of a loved one.
The absence of that person can feel heart-wrenching, and the pain of their transition can be overwhelming.
However, even in such a difficult time, their passing can bring about a blessing in unexpected ways.
Their soul may find peace, or the family may find a new sense of harmony.
Additionally, their presence from the other side can guide and support you in ways you might never have anticipated.
They may lead you towards something new or provide comfort and direction that you wouldn’t have experienced otherwise.
Embracing and accepting change, even when it is painful, allows you to eventually see the blessings that come with it.
Trust that, despite the hardships, there will be positive outcomes and new insights to gain as you navigate through the change.
With love and blessings,
Amy Robeson
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Hey, Amy Robeson here. Thank you for joining me on this podcast where we talk about spirituality, the awakening process, mental health, and so much more. Join me weekly to get your weekly dose of spirituality and medicine. I look forward to seeing you on the inside. Hello, everyone, and welcome to today’s episode. I’m so excited you are here. In life, you are going to experience change. We all know this, right? The question is, how can you befriend change in a way that allows you to surrender to it? And I’ll give you an example of what I mean by surrendering to it. I have a good practice that I like to practice in my business, and that is if someone cancels at the last minute, I usually never get upset. And it’s not that it might not be annoying that they’re canceling at the last minute. I always just love the fact that there has been space in my day unexpectedly. And that change is welcome because that space sometimes is beyond necessary for my mind, body, and soul. And so the change in the schedule is unexpected, but I’m always embracing it. Now, I do have rarely good boundaries with my clients.
And if something does happen unexpectedly, I welcome the change. The reason also for this is Sometimes the universe wants me to have some free time to just breathe, to go take a nap, to go take a walk, to catch up on emails, to do whatever it is that I meant to do. And I always just celebrate it. And so this is one of my ways of embracing change in my day if someone unexpectedly cancels on me at the last minute, and I embrace it. This can also carry over into other things that are changing in my life or in your life. Because when we surrender to that possibility of change, what we’re doing is giving ourselves the opportunity to have a different sense of control. I like saying control because you get to control the way you react to the change. You get to control the way you navigate the change. You get to control what your steps are in throughout the change and after the change. And so if you don’t surrender and you resist the change, you’re either going to sit there and wallow in a certain emotion that doesn’t serve your highest good, or you’re going to blink and it’s gone and you didn’t even get to experience the journey fully.
You don’t really recognize what and how you learned throughout the experience itself. Surrender is an amazing act of kindness for yourself because you’re not battling your mental body. You’re not battling your ego. You’re not battling your inner child. You’re not battling your physical body. And yes, it might feel like when you’re going through it and you have some angst or you’re nervous or you’re scared or whatever it is that you’re feeling, you might feel like you’re battling it. But once you give yourself permission to surrender, it’s amazing. I know, I used to work in the car business as a finance manager, and I craved change. I really wanted change. And I decided, you know what? I’m done. I’m going to move. I was planning on moving to a different state. And I realized that that decision wasn’t the right decision for me, but I already knew that I needed a break from work. And when I took that break, it was so well deserved and it felt so good. And it took a lot of heart and a lot of guts to go, I just told everybody that I was moving, and then I changed my mind.
Because oftentimes, we might make a decision around change and then change our mind, but we decide to go in a different direction, and we might feel embarrassed about what other people might think or say. And for me, I know that That particular decision on wanting to move was the catalyst to take a break in that it was the absolutely necessary thing for me to do. But I knew deep down in my heart that moving wasn’t where I was supposed to go. I was supposed to stay where I lived, and I was supposed to stay home, and I was supposed to just be there, but I needed a break. I took a well-deserved break. And then when I went back, I worked for the same company, but I decided to go back to a different dealership. And when I went back to this different dealership, I wasn’t really in love with the dealership. I really didn’t care for the culture of the dealership. I didn’t care for some of the people that I worked with. And it wasn’t necessarily that they were bad people. Our personalities, they just clashed. I really liked my old dealership, and I wanted to back to my old dealership.
And I remember one of the sales managers pointed out something to me one day because I was just like, I don’t want to be here. I just want to go home. And she goes, Do you realize you say that every day? And I’m like, You know what? You’re right. And I need to do something about it. And I got up and I called our VP immediately and asked if I could be transferred. And the reason why I never asked to go back, to begin with, is because I needed to change a change of scenery. But I realized that the change that I had made was only a temporary change, and I felt more comfortable, and it felt more at home going back to where I was. And so you can see how change can be so complicated because there’s all these different decisions that are involved. And in this case, the VP was like, Absolutely, you can go back. They’ll welcome you with open arms. And I went back, and it was awesome. And I worked there until I decided to transition to go back to school and all that other stuff. And so the cool part is, is no matter what, there are going to be big emotions and big feelings that are connected to the changes that you are making and the decisions that you are making.
And the key to change is surrender and to be honest with yourself. The more honest you are with yourself on what is happening within you and what is it that you truly want, the easier it is for you to actually navigate the change that you are seeking or having to seek. Because sometimes we have change just thrown upon us without ever discussing it ahead of time with the universe. For example, you might have a loved one that gets into a car accident and they need your assistance to support them and take care of them and to help them while they’re healing. So that is a temporary change that just gets thrown on the lap without any discussion ahead of time. You can’t predict those types of things, and you can’t prepare for those types of things. I mean, you could prepare for if there was an emergency ever, what would you do and what would that look like? However, you navigate in that exact moment, you never know, right? And so when you are going through change and navigating change, ask yourself questions. Ask yourself how you’re feeling and ask yourself if you’re scared and what you’re scared of.
Because when you answer the question, What am I scared of? It takes the boogie man out of the closet. It pulls them out from underneath the bed where you’re not hiding from the bogeyman anymore. What you’re doing is you’re addressing the fear head-on. And when you address the fear head-on, you can unpack it in a way that allows you to feel empowered, that allows you to take some sense of control and responsibility for how you’re going to navigate it moving forward. It also assists you in getting to the next step. So let’s say you are scared to navigate this change. And when you ask yourself that question and you reveal an answer to yourself that you’re scared of failing, the next question is, why am I scared of failing? And then you can go down this rabbit hole and then you can realize that, oh, well, I don’t feel prepared, or I feel like an impostor, or I’m scared to be seen. These are all things that you can work on with yourself and with someone else if need be. So I know for me, when I was navigating transitioning from my one career into what I do now, I know that I was terrified, absolutely terrified of losing my income, terrified of what people would think of me, terrified that I would fail.
And the more that I sat and wallowed in those fears, the longer it took me to take the leap of faith. And when I actually took action towards saying, I’m going to do this no matter what, and then addressing casually throughout the time that once I made that decoration, I’m going to do this no matter what, I started addressing fears slowly, but surely that would creep up and I would have to address them so that I can make the changes in my life that was necessary for me to make in order to become the person who I wanted to become, to do the things that I wanted to do. Also, change can be the way that you communicate with yourself. And this is where I think it’s really important for people to be really honest with themselves when it comes to self-worth, self-esteem, feeling good enough, and things like that because what you say to yourself throughout the day dictates how you are going to change or not change for the better or for the worse. And if you’re constantly talking, let’s say, about your weight and how you don’t like your body, or let’s say you’re talking about your intelligence, or you’re talking about your money in a negative way.
These are all things that are sending signals out to the universe that say, you don’t want to change that. You want to keep that ingrained into your life, into your energy signature, into your reality. The more that you realize that your words are creating your reality and keeping you stagnant, the more that you will have the opportunity to stop saying the things that are causing you harm. I had a conversation with a friend of mine the other day, and this friend just kept talking about their body and their weight and their confidence as well. And I finally said to this person, I said, I want you to make a pack. You’re not going to say one bad negative about yourself the rest of the day. And instantly, this person started making an excuse why they needed to beat themselves up. And it comes down to self-worth. And I’m guilty of this myself. I know that for a long time, I would make fun of my intelligence. I would make fun of my ability to know certain things and my confidence and my self-worth. And so when I started working on shifting my mindset and shifting my words and changing those words.
And what I said to myself, I stopped saying those harmful things to myself, and I started feeling more confident and feeling more connected with myself in a different way. But I had to surrender to the fact that I was doing those harmful things to myself. And it can be a hard pill to swallow at times. And I want to encourage you and go back to one more thing before I go to this next thought. This friend of mine did say, Oh, you’re so right. I am doing that, right? And sometimes we do need and require people to call us out because sometimes we are so stuck on a loop where we are repeating a pattern over and over and over and over and over so normal. It is so beyond normal for our vocabulary, for the way we think, for the way we act, or for the way we react. And the thing is, you are hurting yourself. And you deserve to have the reality that you want. You deserve to experience change in a positive or neutral way. Your words are going to lift you up and help you rise, or they are going to knock you down and keep you stuck.
So pay attention to what you are saying, especially when it comes to change. A good example of this would be when someone goes, Over my dead body. There might be something that someone says around change, and they’re like, Over my dead body. Well, that’s a clear sign that you’re resisting change. But sometimes change is inevitable. Sometimes change is important. I know that some of the biggest changes I’ve had in my life didn’t come without fears and didn’t come without big emotions and didn’t come without all of the mixed emotions that come with it. Because you can be super excited about change and also yet really scared to do it at the same time, and you drag your feet and you miss an opportunity because you’re too scared to take the leap of faith. Whatever the course is, ask yourself what you’re fearful of, and then continue to ask yourself why so that you can navigate the change that you want to have or is thrown upon you, and you can get the support and help you need for that change if necessary as well. And remember, change in the long run, even if in the beginning feels hard, changing in the long run is always, always going to have a blessing for you at the end.
Even if we don’t see it, even if it’s gut-wrenching what that change is, there is always going to be some blessing that you will be rewarded with in the end, no matter what, no matter what the circumstance is. And I want to emphasize that piece as well, because sometimes we might have a loved one that transitions, and it feels really hard. And this change of not having that loved one around can feel gut-wrenching. But their passing can be a blessing in a weird way. And their soul is at peace, or the family gets to be at peace, or you get to experience something different because they lead you from the other side towards something that you never would have expected. And so they get to be a guide and a support system from the other side. So I hope you enjoyed today’s podcast. I look forward to seeing you in the next one. Please make sure you like subscribe and share a friend. Talk to you soon. Bye.
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