Episode 114: How to Heal Your Inner Child: A Path to Self-Love and Wholeness

I have such a deep, deep knowing that I meant to share this message today with you. And it’s not only a knowing, like, I can feel it in my heart as I was thinking about what to share today, and it was like very clear. And I want you to really take this message in because I think it’s so important and it’s so crucial. You ready?

Let’s go. You are not broken. You do not need to fix anything about yourself. What wants to occur is the opportunity to heal the trauma that you’ve experienced in the past or currently experiencing. Trauma does not have to be war or a natural disaster, or sexual abuse.

Trauma could be going through a divorce, having a bad breakup with a friend, having financial issues, or having to relocate unexpectedly. There are all sorts of different trauma that we experience throughout our lifetime. And what wants to happen is instead of fixing and changing things, the invitation is to heal what has occurred.

And that is disturbing your peace, disturbing your reality, preventing you from creating the reality that you truly want and desire. We all experience pain in some way, shape, or form. We all experience stressful situations. But sometimes, those stressful intentions can cause trauma. Those experiences can cause trauma. And when that happens, your inner child is wounded.

And the inner child, it doesn’t matter what age you were when that happened; your inner child is impacted by those experiences, by that trauma. And what spirit, what creation is inviting you to do is to heal, stop trying to fix, and stop viewing yourself as broken. Because anytime you’re trying to fix something that literally seals you’re broken and you’re not broken, what has occurred is a separation from wholeness.

What wants to happen is to mend that separation, to break the conditioning that that experience has had on you so that you can heal and move on from it. Your inner child is all different ages, and the inner child has so much to share with you.

For me, I bring up the inner child in most programs that I teach. Like, we just did a DNA activation course. The inner child was included the entire time. Anytime I teach the Akashic records, the inner child is a big component of it. I am constantly working with my inner child because my inner child has secrets.

Secrets on what she has experienced and has internalized and how it is impacting her. So when we are in fear, we will do things out of fear to keep ourselves safe. And even if in the past that didn’t work. We’re still familiar with it. And so it’s safer than the unfamiliar or the inner child causes a frozen reaction or a different type of reaction that keeps you from making and assisting in the reality that you truly want to have.

And so if we go internally and work with the inner child on healing, what you want to change, what you feel is broken, what you want to fix, your inner child will show up in a completely different way. I know for me, I’ve had a set of conditions that I felt that if I wasn’t doing something to please other people, even if I was so tired, that I wasn’t worthy enough, that I couldn’t have that very thing that I wanted.

And so I would run around all day doing things that I really didn’t need to be doing. And what it ended up doing is creating all these really bad habits of people pleasing and overworking. And this might not be your habit, and that’s okay.

What wants to happen and what can make a huge difference is if you take the time and start looking at your habits that aren’t working for you and ask, where do they stem from? Where does that habit, where does that behavior, where does that condition stem from? Were you 15? Were you 30? Were you 50?

How old were you when that happened? When did you start healing like that? And when you take an honest look without any judgment, again, it’s just about being curious. It’s about self-discovery. You will get feedback.

You might have a breakthrough. You might have an AHA where you’re like, OOH, I forgot about that. Or, oh, I know what that is. And then, you have an opportunity to work with the inner child at that particular age and start healing her or him. Healing is such a profound gift that you can give yourself, that you can gift yourself.

Because when you heal, you eliminate those conditions, and you start vibrating at a new level of frequency that is of love, of self-worth. And you attract the things that you want to attract in your life.

When you feel good, you make different decisions. When you feel bad, you make completely different decisions than if you were feeling good. So heal the parts that are literally screaming at you to heal. And I know you know something right off the top of your head right now that there’s something that is ready to be healed. And if you’re scared to do it, the very first step is to just acknowledge I can heal that; I want that, and I deserve that.

Even if you don’t know how you don’t know how it’s going to happen. But the acknowledgment of it will make a gigantic difference. There are going to be five suggestions that I’m going to make that you can do anytime you want to start to. One, develop a relationship with your inner child. But to also heal that aspect of your inner child.

One is to acknowledge that your inner child exists. By just acknowledging, saying hello to the inner child, you will allow yourself to deepen that relationship. Two, give yourself and your inner child a hug daily. Just this acknowledgment alone will support you in cultivating a new relationship, will allow your inner child to feel safe.

Three, write your inner child a letter. Anything you want to say to your inner child, go ahead and say it because it’s going to support releasing anything that you might be holding on to, and you might actually be surprised what it is that you want to share with your inner child. Four, look in the mirror.

And as you’re looking in the mirror and you’re doing mirror work, imagine looking at yourself eye to eye, which you’re going to be doing in the mirror. But imagine yourself at whatever age you’re being guided to imagine yourself seven years old, twelve years old, 30 years old, 40 years old, however old, and you’re going to say, I love you.

You are amazing. I will protect you. I love you. You are amazing. You are safe.

I love you. Anything else you want to say while you’re looking at yourself in the mirror? Mirrorwork is huge. It’s gigantic, it’s very profound. And it can also be very hard to do at first.

But when you look at yourself, you’re taking the moment to get out of the mind, and you’re looking at yourself, and any negative thing that you’re saying to yourself inside your mind, it’s going to be hard for you to say it. While you’re looking at yourself in the mirror, give yourself a ton of love. And if it feels good, you can also state your name. So for me, I would say, Amy, I love you. You’re freaking amazing.

Good job today. And allow yourself to have enthusiasm and play with it and be yourself when you’re doing it. So it’s just a lot of fun. The fifth one is to let go of judgment when a negative thought comes up or when you notice a habit creeping back into your space, or something just doesn’t go your way. After you’ve been doing this work, gift yourself a lot of love and a lot of self-compassion because it takes time, it takes patience, and it takes practice.

The more that you can gift yourself compassion, the more that you’re going to teach your inner child that it’s okay to make mistakes and that you got your inner child’s back no matter what. And most importantly, you’re allowing love to vibrate through you. And that is the greatest teacher because love is going to shift you out of judgment, out of mistakes, out of self-deprivation, and into self-love. Your inner child hears to have a different relationship with you. And when you stop trying to change and stop trying to fix, and you just get in relationship with yourself, and you start healing.

You end up creating the reality you truly want and desire. And you’re amazing, my friend, and I know you’re capable of doing it. You totally are. Absolutely. Take a nice, deep breath in and feel that.

Feel it in all parts of your body and being. You deserve to love all parts of yourself, good, bad, and indifferent, because they’re not really bad, and they’re not really indifferent, and they’re not really good. They just are.

And when we recognize that there are parts of us that require extra love, extra attention, because they experience something traumatic, and it doesn’t mean it has to be big. It can be little. It could be small. But it wasn’t small to your inner child. It wasn’t small to your nervous system.

You get to acknowledge those parts of you that were hurt, and you get to heal them with your own self-love, with your own heart, because you are whole. And it’s just recognizing your wholeness.