Episode 215: How to Heal and Grow from Relationship Challenges

Hello, everyone. Welcome to Awakening with Amy Robeson, the live experience. I’m so excited you are here. If you’re joining us live or catching the replay, please say hello. Please let me know where you’re tuning in from, how How you’re doing. How is your energy this week? How have you been feeling? I know that I have been talking to some of my students, and the energy last week for a lot of people was super intense. They weren’t sleeping really well, and so I want to check in. Are you sleeping better this week? Are you feeling better this week? All of the energies that are happening in the Cosmos affect us in some way, shape, or form. And The planetary positions are good feedback on how we are to take care of our body, either to slow down or to speed up or to address or to look at things. If you’re needing more sleep, sleep, if you’re feeling energized and motivated, take advantage of that wave of energy that can catapult you into something different. And then slowing down can also catapult you into something amazing and different if you give yourself permission to slow down and rest.

And so our bodies are having rhythms, and those rhythms are really important to pay attention to and to look at because they’re telling you something, they’re informing you about something. Sometimes we override those systems and we end up hurting ourselves. So don’t hurt yourself. Be careful. Listen, tune in, slow down. Like, breathe with the rhythm of your being and see where that rhythm is wanting to take you. And it is so powerful. Today, what I want to do is I want to do an audience choice. We haven’t done this in a while. And so if you’re here live, let me know. I want to do a channel message. I want to do some teaching depending on what you guys want me to do on a topic or theme around for this live experience, type it in the comments in the chat box and let me know, is there something that you’ve been struggling with and that you’d like some support with, some coaching on? Is there something that you have been thinking about and you’d like some assistance with? Let me know in the comments. We can do a topic around money or abundance or health or slowing down or whatever it is that is coming to mind.

Let me know. Someone said distraction. Someone also said it’s been really intense. Kim also said still struggling with sleep. Yes, that can be happening. Also, Kim, there’s a lot of stuff that’s going on. We’re about to leave for that to us, too. That can also be it as well. Let me know in the comments, is there a topic or a theme that you’d like me to do this particular live experience on, let me know. If you’re just hopping on, say hi, let me know where you’re tuning in from and how you are doing. If I don’t hear, I’m going to go with the I’m going to just read some of these comments, and then I’m going to go with whatever the guardians want me to take off with. If you’re new to me, I channel from the Akashic Records. I’m an Akashic Record Master teacher. I channel a lot. I love channeling messages, so we’ll definitely have a channel message in this experience, and then we’ll see where this wants to go. Someone named Unnamed Guys, the Distractions. Mary said, How do you cut our hurt from some people who keep hurting us, like cut the pain and have a good relationship.

I like that topic. I’ve been dealing with a lot of lower back pain, but abundance with everything else. Especially karmic relationships. Yes. I think we can do a blend of a couple of these. Let’s talk about distractions first. Distractions can be good, they can be bad, and they can be indifferent. They can be on opposite ends of the spectrum, depending on what that distraction is. Sometimes when we’re working on a project or we’re deep in something and we feel stuck, a distraction can be a good thing. You go out with some friends or you go play golf or you go for a walk. Sometimes a distraction can be good because it gets you out of your head, gets you out of that energy, and allows you to just be outside of that particular frequency so that you can be inspired. So there’s that distraction. And then the opposite end of that is you’re distracted, and you’re not able to do the things that you’re wanting to do. And so you distract yourself with things like the phone or the social media or saying yes to a bunch of things that you shouldn’t be saying yes to because it keeps you distracted and it keeps you in avoidance mode of doing the thing that you’re meant to be doing.

The question that you’re always going to want to ask yourself is, is this distraction beneficial for where I’m wanting to go, or is this distraction detrimental? And if it’s detrimental, then you’re going to want to stop and ask yourself, why am I allowing this distraction in? Why am I choosing this distraction over and then fill in the blame? Because that’s going to give you a better understanding of why you might be behaving in a particular way, and then how to actually solve the problem. Because sometimes you might be distracted because let’s say you have… I’m just going to use this as an example. Let’s say you’re wanting to start a business and you’re afraid of being seen. You know you want to do lives. You know you want to work on social media copy. You know you want to start sharing things. But every time you go to do a live or sit down to make content, you come up with a reason why you can’t do it. And so you ask yourself, is this a distraction beneficial? And the answer is no. Okay, well, why am I doing this? Well, I’m afraid of being seen.

That’s right there the problem. I’m afraid of being seen. Then you have the opportunity to unpack that, work through that in many different ways. One of the ways that you can unpack it is, okay, well, what is 1% closer to being seen or closer to the goal that I want that will allow me to work through the jitter bugs? That might be, I’m going to set a Timer for five minutes, and I’m going to sit down and write for five minutes. And no matter how silly or stupid I think it is, at least I’m writing, or at least I’m creating, or at least I’m doing this. Then you can set a deadline on when you’re actually going to do a live or do whatever it is that you want. But the thing is, is you got to give yourself permission to do at least something by one % Because every day, if we just give ourselves permission to be 1% better, you are going to have a massive amount of change in less than a month, in less than three months, in less than a year. A massive amount of change. If you just give yourself permission to be one 1% better than the day before and working on whatever it is that you’re working on.

So that right there can be extremely helpful in terms of distractions. So then the other topic that we’re looking at that Mary suggests is, how do you cut out the hurt from people that keep hurting you? Like cutting out the pain and still have a good relationship. Mary, are you still wanting a good relationship with that? Let me know. Also, let me know if the distraction piece resonates with you, and if that’s something that you’re willing to do is give yourself permission to evaluate, to look at it. Is it a good distraction or a bad distraction? Because sometimes distractions are really good, especially for me. If I’m working on something and I’m just like, I’m consumed and I feel full, my brain is full, my energy is full. Going and taking a walk for me is some of the best things ever because I need different feedback than what my brain is giving me, what my computer is giving me or whatever it is that I’m working on. Just being outside or calling a friend or doing something can be really helpful. She said, I agree. Love that 1%, going to definitely use that. Thanks, Amy.

You’re welcome. Okay, so let’s talk about cutting out people. I was just having a conversation about this this morning with someone. Here’s the thing. We are meant to be in a relationship with people throughout our lifetime. That doesn’t mean you are meant to be in a relationship with the same people throughout your lifetime. You don’t owe anybody anything, plain, simple, period. I know that we can get into the nuances and the complications of things. But at the end of the day, you You are here to be a sovereign being. You are here to have autonomy. You are here to grow and to evolve. Sometimes that means saying goodbye to relationships that are no longer serving you, saying goodbye to people that are hurting you in a way that doesn’t allow you to grow. You are the sum of the five people you hang out with the most. So let me say that again. You are the sum of the five people you hang out with the most. So let’s say you hang with a bunch of broke people and you’re wanting manifest money. Or let’s say you hang out with a bunch of people that are always in victim mentality.

It is going to be hard for you to have a positive outlook on if you are constantly hanging out with people that are constantly negative. You got to look at, is this fear of influence, because it is the sphere of influence, is this fear of influence worth hurting myself over? The question might be, yeah, temporarily, it might be yes, or it might be absolutely not. Then it gets complicated because your feelings are wrapped up within it, right? Because sometimes you’ve been in a relationship with someone, maybe all your life because you’re a family member, or you’ve been friends with them for a really long time, and you don’t want to hurt your feelings. I call this the pause. Sometimes we just need to pause. We need to pause the relationship. We need to take a step back. And this gives us permission to re evaluate the relationship and to also put up healthy boundaries. I have people that I love dearly, but sometimes they’re just not in a head space that works for my head space. They’re not in a place where it makes sense for me to be in full relationship with them. And so I put them on pause.

And there’s nothing wrong with that. So I put up a boundary where it’s like, and I’ll check in, and this is for anybody that I’m about to call, is I will check in with myself and see if it serves my highest good to give that person a call or to reach out to that person. It might not be that they’re not doing anything wrong. It’s just not an energetic match for where I’m at in that particular moment in time or I don’t have the capacity to listen or to be in conversation in the way that they want me to be in conversation in the way that I want to be in conversation. And so you have to understand what your energetic capacity is and what that looks like, and does it feel good for you to be in relationship or in conversation in that particular moment in time? Someone said that they fall away if their frequency doesn’t resonate. Absolutely. Then somebody also said, family of manipulators think they can still juxtaposed healing from the dawn of Erysius? I don’t know how to say that. We always have, Cici also said making all decisions based on your highest good Autocrrecting.

Okay, that makes sense. Thanks. Here’s the thing. We, family, family, family, family. Family is so complicated, especially for certain family dynamics and certain family trauma bonds and certain family learn patterns and behaviors of communicating. We all take on certain roles in our family. Some people are the fixer, some people are the mediator, some people are that we’re going to get things done. Some people are the baby, the victim. Some people are the victor, meaning they’re going to be victorious and everybody leans on them to solve the problem. Whatever archetype, whatever role you play in your family or your chosen family, it’s really important to take a step back and understand just because you took on that role doesn’t mean that you are responsible to that role. And for me, I know that sometimes I had a particular role that I played in my family, and it would cause me all certain types of stress and all certain types of problems. The moment I realized that I wasn’t willing to play in that role anymore, all sorts of other things fix themselves because I wasn’t playing that role, and I chose to take a step out of the role itself.

And you sometimes have to make the decision to step out so other people can step forward, and you’re not the energetic blockage that’s preventing things from getting fixed, healed, or mended in such a different way. Okay, with that also being said, so how do we cut out the pain and still have a good relationship? Well, you have to understand and identify what the actual problem is so that you can start looking at, How do I fix this? Sometimes it’s not your responsibility to fix it. Sometimes it’s your responsibility to express what is happening for you and how you want someone to fix it. Because sometimes it’s the matter of having a conversation. It’s like, Hey, when you do that, that really hurts my feelings, and I would kindly ask you to stop doing that. Or, Hey, anytime I speak about something, you get super defensive, and I don’t feel seen and heard, and then you take your frustration and anger out on me, and I don’t think that’s fair. How do we fix this problem? It’s like, one, identifying what the problem is, then articulating what you would like to happen. Sometimes it’s just a matter of unpacking it with the person to figure out what that looks like.

Then also, it’s identifying what the boundary is. If a boundary is needed it, which usually it is, if a boundary is needed in order to still have that person in your life. Having a boundary is not a bad thing. Also, remember, you are responsible for holding that boundary. The other person is not responsible. If you put a boundary in place, you are responsible for holding that boundary. For example, I have a boundary around politics with someone that I love, as a person not have a conversation about politics, sometimes without getting super angry, defensive, mad, whatever. And this person likes to yell. So I have a boundary. The second you start talking about politics, I am not going to have that conversation with you. I will hang up. And so that is my boundary. And then over the years, that boundary has changed to where we can have a conversation. But the moment you start getting defensive, yelling, screaming, not wanting to listen, here’s the new boundary. You can change the boundary as well, depending on what your relationship is with that person and what that looks like. But The key is to be willing to be honest about how it hurts you, the pain it’s causing you.

And if you still want that person in your life is to have an intelligent conversation. Sometimes you have to unpack all of that stuff before you have the conversation so you can articulate what it is that you’re experiencing, how you’re experiencing, what do you want to change? Sometimes you might not know what you want to change, but you want to have at least the conversation of This is hurting my feelings. This is hurting me in XYZ way. Until you do that, that person doesn’t have the opportunity to fix their behavior because it’s not… They don’t know what’s going on on the inside unless you express Now, if you’ve expressed it and they continue to ignore that, that’s a whole different issue. That is where the boundaries come in place. That is where you have to implement certain things. Sometimes it means putting the person on pause. Sometimes it means cutting the person out of your life altogether. Sometimes that is beyond necessary. I have outgrown relationships in my life, and those relationships were not serving me. I got really clear on the type of relationships that I wanted because I felt like some of the relationships that I was in were very lopsided.

They were very one sided. They were very like, I was giving, giving, giving, giving, giving Resentment is going to kill a relationship. If you do feel resentful, you got to be willing to express that, Hey, I am resentful. Let me tell you, when you are able to identify that you are resentful and that you can articulate that in a way that allows you to share that, I am resentful of these certain behaviors, these certain comments, these certain things, these certain ways that we are in relationship with, and I want to solve this problem, how do we do that? That’s the thing. If you’re used to shoving down, shoving down, shoving down, shoving down your emotions, you’re going to get resentful. Also, we’ll do the opposite under the spectrum, where you don’t shove down your feelings, but you have outbursts of like, this is injust, this is whatever, and you’re screaming, yelling or reacting in such a posture way Because either we collapse, we go in, or we posture, or we freeze and fawn, meaning we just don’t know how to react, and we just freeze. And so whatever you’re posturing are collapsing, neither one of them are good.

And so we want to find what the balance is, because when you posture, you become wrong. And it doesn’t mean that you’re not right about the situation. You just didn’t handle properly. We want to figure out where’s the sweet spot so that you can navigate what you’re feeling and then articulate it in a way that it’s a win-win for both people, or It’s hard. Let me say, sometimes cutting someone else out of your life is a win-win for both people because they have the opportunity to be with people in the relationships that they’re wanting and not have to worry about they’re going to hurt someone’s feelings. Because sometimes, some people just aren’t meant to be in a relationship because they just don’t have the same values, the same thought process, the same beliefs, the way that they handle things differently. It’s all okay. Sometimes we’re meant to have people in our life for a short period of time while others were meant to have them in our life for a really long time or for just a chapter or two, whatever it is, it’s absolutely perfectly okay. Let me read some of these comments. Cee Cee, family, I had to recognize everyone in my life.

Past, present, future play a role in expanding of my soul. No victim mentality. We choose these challenges for expansion. Absolutely. Carol said, I can’t do anything. I’m not well, and I have to live with my parents. That means they have control over most of my life. I’m sorry. When we’re We’re in complicated situations, for example, what Carol just said, they have control over my life because there’s a certain amount of dependency on them, right? The question is, just because they’re helping you, what feels good to you and where is the compromise on where you guys can meet in the middle on something? Sometimes it takes taking a step back and looking at it from all perspectives. That’s why I love the I’ve heard so much is because sometimes they offer, they always offer, not sometimes, they always offer alternative perspectives on any given situation. It allows us to see through different lenses. There are so many different complicated situations out there and the dynamics and everything that is caused by that. And it’s just interesting. It’s just very, very interesting. And I’ll give you an example of how I find things interesting. The way that my family, the way I grew up in my family is very different than the way my husband grew up.

And my mother-in-law lives with us. And the way that she handles medical things and the way that my mom handles medical things are very different than one another. One is not right, one is not wrong. It’s just the way that they do things. And so it’s a dance of understanding and how to approach the situation based on that person, not based on what you were taught. And that’s where autonomy comes in. I think that that’s really important. I think that the spiritual law of tolerance, that doesn’t mean you tolerate bad behavior, tolerance means that you have tolerance for the person in the way that they just are who they are. And I think that sometimes this approach to people in general, and it doesn’t mean they get to walk all over you. It doesn’t mean that you tolerate inappropriate behavior. You just give them permission to be who they are with boundaries. And it allows you not to get caught up in an emotional spiral reaction to certain behaviors that you’re used to spiraling or used to reacting. So It doesn’t have to be a spiral, but you’re used to reacting to them in a certain way.

When you practice tolerance, it changes your reaction because everything comes down to how you choose to react to any given situation in your life. I hope that’s helpful. Let me know in the comments, is this helpful? Can you relate? Are you wanting to… Please answer this one. Is there someone in your life that you’re questioning your relationship on? Just type yes or no. Is there someone in your life that you’re questioning your relationship on? And that can be complicated. So complicated because there’s all sorts of different feelings. It’s like going through a breakup, but it’s platonic. And you have to go through all the emotions of grief sometimes when it comes to those types of relationships, because your soul, your higher self, your team is trying to get your attention to make it aware that there is an imbalance in relationships, in that relationship or something else. And I know for me, you have to be willing to look at how you’re showing up in that relationship and what you’re able to tolerate and what you’re not able to tolerate and what that looks like and what you want it to change to. Because if you can’t identify what you want it to change, you’re going to still get the same result.

If you know you don’t want that person to go, if you know you want that person to go, call it a day. Wipe your hands of it. If you know you want that person to be in your life for a moment at this particular moment in time, then what do you want to change and what are you willing to do outside your comfort zone to have that conversation to invite that change in? Sometimes it means you taking action on your end first before having that conversation as well, and it could be really helpful. Got some yeses. So my dad’s a narcissist. I’m sorry. I totally get that. When you’re dealing with you’re dealing with a narcissist, you’re dealing with someone that is grandiose and doesn’t take responsibility for any of their actions. And so what do you got to do to protect yourself? And that’s going to be next question. Okay. With that, I want to channel one more little message from the guardians before we hop off. Also, just quick announcement. If you are wanting to join us for the Soul Evolution Masterclass series, it’s a free 10-day event. It starts February 17th. It’s absolutely free.

We’re going to do soul lineage healing, ancestral lineage. This is going to be big, especially if you’re having a relationship or your friendships that you’re wanting to let go, we can clear some of those things in the soul lineage and ancestral healings that we’re going to do at the 10-day free master class. It’s called the Soul Evolution Masterclass Series. It’s an extravaganza. I’m going to give away a lot of prizes, lots and lots of prizes. You have a chance to enter to win a Sacred Awakening course or light language magic or some meditation bundles. All you have to do share with our raffle. If you’re interested, you can go to theamyrobeson.com/masterclass. I’m going to just type that in the chat box really quick. theamyrobeson.com/masterclass. That’s T-H-E-A-M-Y-R-O-B-E-S-O-N.com/masterclass. Someone said, Will you be at the Conscious Life Expo? I will be at the Conscious Life Expo. That is happening this weekend. If you’re wanting to come to that, it is Friday, Saturday, Sunday. I got to look at my calendar because I don’t know the dates in my brain. It is the seventh, eighth, and ninth. We do have a link here for the Expo.

Let me grab that really quickly. If you’re wanting to join us, come say hi to me. I would love to see you. I’m going to be doing an ancestral a Kasha Crickert workshop. I’m going to be channeling an ancestral healing. We’re going to be doing a Galactic Light Language lecture. I’m also on an interdimensional panel as well. If you’d love to come see us, we’re going to be in the international ballroom. We’ll have Sacred Awakening students there as well that are going to be doing a Kasha Crickert reading. So if you’re interested, you can come. Go to theamyrobeson.com/ConsciousLifeExpo, theamyrobeson.com/ConsciousLifeExpo. I just pop the links in. If you’re interested in coming, let us know. If you are, someone said, I’ll be there I’m hearing. Welcome. Stacy, come say hi. Love to meet you guys in person. If you can’t come, we’re going to be doing the 10-day Masterclass series. We have people all around the world, and so it’s just neat. I love doing the series because every year, I learn something new about the records. Not every year, every round, I teach it. I teach the level one round twice the year.

We do this event twice the year, and it’s just powerful. Here’s what the guardians are saying as well, that sometimes what has to break will actually mend the heart, meaning sometimes the relationship is broken, and you have to address the issues of its brokenness in order to mend it. Mend it means saying goodbye to the relationship or sharing what is wrong, and then saying goodbye to the relationship or sharing what is wrong and giving the person the opportunity or the organization or the people that you’re in relationship with the opportunity to fix it. And you guys can brainstorm and the The ball’s in your court once you figure it out, then you put the ball in their court as well. The other thing they’re saying is sometimes sadness in a relationship is the very catalyst of change that is going to assist you in evolving your soul. And so sometimes these relationships come in for you to have the opportunity to stand in your power. And if you choose not to stand in your power, you’re going to still get the same thing. It’s you that gets to have the choice on how to change it.

Nobody else is going to change it for you. Only you can change that particular thing that is not working for you by using your voice, using your energy, using your momentum, using your creativity to solve the problem in the way that you’re being guided to solve it. And so go and solve it because you deserve it as well. All right, my friend. Someone said, I was brought here today with divine guidance. Absolutely. Awesome, awesome, my friends. I am so excited for the Soul Evolution Masterclass series. I’m so excited for our next live. We’re going to be doing a live next week. I don’t think I have it in my calendar yet. Oh, no. It’s next week, Wednesday at 2: 00 PM Central, 12: 00 PM Pacific, 3: 00 PM Eastern. Eastern. Join us live next week. We’ll send out an email for that. Then I can’t wait to share what happens at the Expo. I always get some good downloads, so I can’t wait to share what that looks like, how that’s going to be, and what takeaways I got from it. I’ll see you guys next week, or I’ll see you at the Expo, or I’ll see you online.

Have a great day. Take care. Bye, guys..