Episode 89: Signs You've Met Your Soulmate

Hello, my friend, and welcome to today's episode.

I'm so excited you are here. Let's talk about soulmates. Did you know that you can have many soulmates in your lifetime? And not all the soulmates that you are connected to, that you have on a soul level, are romantic. Oftentimes people will come to me, and they're like, Amy, I'm ready to find my soulmate.

I'm like, great, you've already met them. Because one of their best friends is their soulmate, and they're not romantic, and they're not looking to be romantic, or their pet is their soulmate. We can have many soulmates. We can have more than one soulmate in this lifetime.

A soulmate is someone that you have a deep, deep, deep connection to. They can be a friend, a family member, a coworker, or a complete stranger you meet on the street, and you just know that you are connected to that person. There's a familiarity about them. There's a homey, like a coming home feeling. And it's because your soul recognizes their soul. And their soul might recognize you right away, or they might not. It just depends on how awake they are.

Also, know that when you're navigating, reaching, and connecting with a soulmate, the desire there is to really connect on a cellular level and recognize each other's wholeness. Our consciousness has fallen, and when the consciousness falls, we forget that we are whole. And so a soulmate can assist you in recognizing your wholeness, and you can assist your soulmate in recognizing their wholeness.

There's several signs of recognizing you've met a soulmate. One is you feel like home. That person just feels so homey. They feel familiar. You're just like, I know them, and you've never met them before.

Another is there's a great level of empathy for one another. Empathy is where you can give the person empathy and be vulnerable and allow them to be vulnerable with you without any expectation.

There is also a level of accountability that a soulmate can have with you. So you can assist them in being accountable, and you can be assisted in being accountable as well. And this is because the soulmate is able to explain things in a way that doesn't fall on deaf ears.

Now, let me say this. If you are in a romantic relationship, sometimes we discount our romantic partner's advice because of whatever reason is going on at that time. It could be their tone of voice. It could be you're just not in the mood to hear that advice. It could be that you're just not in a place of receiving the advice.

And so, while this person might be your soulmate, that does not mean you don't have humanness that comes into the relationship where you forget that you are whole. And I had a question the other day around why is it that our partners our family members don't take our advice sometimes. And it's not because they're not taking our advice. It's because of the same exact reason it can fall on deaf ears. And sometimes, that partner or that family member plants the seed.

And we as humans have to hear something more than ten times sometimes for it to finally register that it's available to us or to register to take action. And so sometimes the partner and even the soulmate will plant the seed. And it is okay if you or your romantic partner or your soulmate doesn't take that advice immediately. Sometimes it just has to sit and simmer like a really good soup until it's ready to be served. And it does take other people in the village or other people in the community to plant these seeds as well.

And I call these the seeds of awareness. So, your soulmate or your romantic partner can plant the seed, and that seed starts to germinate. And when you hear it enough, you'll take action on it. And so know that if you're like, I know this is my soul mate. But we have challenges.

Just because you are soulmates with someone doesn't mean you won't have challenges. We are human. You're going to have a difference in opinion. You can have something that's skewing your perception around what they're sharing with you or what you are sharing with them. And so our soulmates are here also to assist us in growing and evolving and achieving and so there will be challenges at times.

Now a soulmate challenge versus a twin flame challenge I find to be very different in terms of the passion behind the challenges. A twin flame is when one soul becomes two souls. And those two souls are here to really make sure that the other person is doing what they agreed to do and that other person is doing what they agreed to do as well. And so these twin flames can have more challenging relationships than the soul mates. I also want to say is like if you're in a romantic relationship and you have met your soul mate, you have to also keep in mind that the fairy tale that you've told yourself might not be playing out.

And this is really important because we have perceptions of how we expect a relationship to grow. And when you're in a relationship, it is not always butterflies and rainbows. Real-life things happen that are outside of your control and in your control as well. So, for example, you can have a death in the family that puts a toll on the relationship with your soulmate while you both are grieving and navigating it. You can have hardships that happen; you can have big, big transitions happen.

I mean, look at what happened with COVID. People had to be stuck in their houses, and sometimes, this is the first time partners have spent that much time with each other in a very long time. And so, it was navigating what that looked like and if it could work or not. And so, know that we want to also look at when we have found a soulmate to consistently be in communication of needs, wants, and desires in a healthy way. And I think that when we are wanting to be in a relationship, and this is... It can be romantic or non-romantic, needs, wants them to desire in a relationship is very real, and if your needs are not being met or their needs are not being met, that can be very detrimental or hurtful. And so, by having this open communication and honesty, it assists with the relationship evolving as you both evolve as well.

Also, know that if you're in a romantic relationship with a soulmate and you love this soulmate, it's really important to be...

You and your soulmates will have good chemistry; you'll have good emotional balance in understanding one another. With that also being said, it's crucial and important that you know that there is not one perfect person out there that is going to complete you or make you feel whole if you don't actually give yourself permission to feel whole.

There's a couple more signs that you can look for in terms of have you met your soulmate. One is you can totally be yourself. Another is you have good chemistry. Another is that you're able to put your guard down sometimes. And when I say sometimes, this is that vulnerability where you guys can both be open and honest with one another.

But as we navigate life, our guards can get up. We start to have these protection mechanisms that are in place. And so, you could have met your soulmate, and something could have happened that doesn't allow you to trust and doesn't allow you to be vulnerable. And so, you and your soulmate have this dance of allowing that vulnerability to come in, allowing you to put that guard down or unlearn some habits that aren't healthy. And this is on both ends.

We, as humans, learn really bad habits, bad coping habits, and bad guarding habits. And these habits prevent us from recognizing our wholeness. And so, it's super important to note that your happily ever after is not determined by a soulmate. And it's unrealistic to put your happiness into one soulmate or many soulmates. Your happiness ends and starts with you in a decision that you make your happily ever after is within you, and the decisions you make and the reactions you make, and the intentions you make are you willing to be more vulnerable?

Are you willing to put your guard down? Are you willing to assist and allow yourself to be assisted in a way that feels really good and really supportive? Know that just because you're with someone that is your soulmate doesn't mean that that commitment to that soulmate is lifetime soulmates come and go throughout your lifetime as well. I know that I have had soulmates in my past that I love dearly and that our past took different paths, and that we were only meant to be within each other's past for that period in time. And so, know that just like the ocean, the tide will go in, and the tide will go out.

And the more that you lean on your heart to open and be honest and be vulnerable and to give yourself permission to be happy. The more you'll experience love on a different level, the more you'll experience love for your soulmates on a different level. Please don't put your happiness on someone else to make you happy because that's not their job. Your job is to be happy for yourself, and the more that you give yourself permission to do that, the more you can actually give them love back and receive love back from them as well. It's a really interesting dynamic and concept that we get to play as humans in this experience.

But the soul recognition from soulmates is powerful. It's amazing. And when you open your heart to that recognition, magical things start to happen. But remember, you both recognize each other's wholeness. But sometimes, previous experiences can dim the light of either both of you or one of you.

And so, it's really important to allow your light to shine so the other person's light can shine. And if they don't want to have their light shining, that's up to them as well. So, I hope you found today's episode really helpful. I hope that you connect with your soulmates. I hope that you open your heart and be vulnerable and honest, and truthful. And most importantly, choose to be happy on your path and your journey along the way.

All right, my friends, I hope you like and subscribe. I look forward to seeing you in the next one. Bye.