Episode 44: Saying Goodbye to An Old Version of Yourself

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Growth is a part of life and outgrowing a part of ourselves is a natural process in our soul’s evolution. That doesn’t make it comfortable, though! Growing out of an old version of ourselves can be painful!

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SAYING GOODBYE TO AN OLD VERSION OF YOURSELF

A BREAK-UP SONG

My husband and I recently went to a Lumineers concert. I was delighted to learn that the opening act was James Bay! I used to repeatedly play the song, Let It Go because it spoke to me. Most people would think it’s a breakup song. And it is!

To me, it isn’t about a break-up of two romantic partners but a break-up with myself, with an old version of me. As I heard this song, all these emotions came through about how I was breaking up with an old version of myself, what that felt like, and how hard it was to say goodbye to certain aspects of myself.

I think that we all break up with parts of ourselves along our journey.

GOODBYE OLD SELF

When this song, Let It Go, first came out, I was breaking up with an old version of myself.

I think that we all break up with parts of ourselves along our journey. Some of those parts are just no longer needed. Sometimes they're terrible habits, and sometimes, they're toxic habits.

Sometimes we just evolve so that we have to say goodbye to certain parts of ourselves that aren’t relevant anymore. It just means they no longer serve us, and we are ready to evolve into a new version of who we are. So we have to say goodbye to ourselves.

STUCK IN THE PAST

When I was breaking up with myself, it was a breakup with an aspect of my ego. Our ego is stuck in the past, and when it’s stuck in the past, it will throw tantrums and fits based on past experiences. The ego likes things to stay the same, and it can be challenging for the ego aspect to let go.

It's up to us to start recognizing these patterns and these behaviors that no longer serve our highest good. I began to evaluate my patterning, and then I started to mourn this aspect of myself. When we say goodbye to a part of ourselves that is no longer needed or necessary to hold on to, it is, in some way, a death. It can bring forth mourning and the grief process. It is a death of sorts.

If you want to change, you have to be willing to grieve.

IT’S OKAY TO GRIEVE

Saying goodbye to an old version of yourself can be painful. A part of who you were is dying to give life to the new aspects of you that are ready to be born. It’s a death, and death can be challenging; grief can be tricky. If you want to change, you have to be willing to grieve.

If you want to manifest a different life than you are currently experiencing, you need to be willing to look at the parts of yourself that aren’t aligned with your new self. The transition will be easier if you do this with much love, empathy, and compassion. That doesn’t mean heavy emotion won’t be attached to the transition. On the contrary, this change can bring sadness, a feeling of loss, and even grief.

You need to be willing to look at what parts of you are no longer serving you.

IT’S NOT YOU; IT’S ME

I loved my old self. My old self got me to this point where I could recognize the patterns that no longer serve me. I wouldn't be where I am without that old version of me. It can be really sad to look in the mirror and say, "Sorry, this isn't working anymore. It's not you; it's me."

It comes down to having the courage to say that and having the courage to go, "Yeah, I love you, but let's not do this anymore." This is one of the best gifts that you can give yourself. You get to evolve and evaluate what parts of you aren’t working, what pieces are stuck in outdated stores, and what parts of yourself conflict with the person you want to be.

We get to evolve, and it’s one of the best gifts you can give yourself.

LET IT SHINE!

There's a deeper meaning when you experience a conflict between the old and the new you. The conflict is trying to shine a light on something. It could be shining a light on:

  • Deficiencies you have.
  • Your thought processes.
  • Relationships that are no longer serving you.

 
When you are breaking up with an outdated version of yourself, this will often include letting go of other people in your life who aren’t aligned with where you are headed. Sometimes we do have to let go of relationships that keep us in a particular vibration that isn’t positive. We might have people in our life that serve a purpose for a specific moment, but they are no longer serving us or growing and evolving with us. We can outgrow relationships along our spiritual evolution, which is also part of the breaking up process.

NO TIME FOR TOXICITY

When we are breaking up with an old version of ourselves, we also need to break up with relationships that no longer serve us. It can be hard to put into perspective, but we can ask if this person:

  • Is toxic
  • Is no longer helping me
  • Keeps me in a rut
  • Makes me feel bad
  • Makes me angry

 
Once you look at what’s going on, it’s easier to identify when someone is not in alignment with your path anymore. It’s not easy to let go of people who were once a significant part of our lives, but if we are honest with ourselves, we will know when it’s time to let go.

Just like you have to say goodbye to toxic versions of yourself, you also need to let go of toxic people in your life.

WHAT DO YOU DESIRE?

Look at your desires and then ask yourself:

  • Who do I have to become to create this desire?
  • What aspect doesn’t fit the new version of me?
  • What traits and habits does that old aspect of me have?
  • What part of the current me needs to stay behind as I move forward?

 
Moving into a new version of yourself requires more authenticity, courage, and compassion, among many other things. Can you get honest with yourself about what needs to be released from your past as you step into your future?

When you get honest with yourself by asking these questions, you can start identifying aspects that are ready to be released. Then you can have a conversation with yourself about that aspect, "Hey, we're no longer doing this dance anymore. I love you, and I love you enough to let you go because I love me enough to evolve."

Having love and compassion for yourself will help you through the mourning process of breaking up with the old version of yourself that's no longer serving you.

USE YOUR SPIRITUAL TOOLS

You can also lean into your spiritual tools to start understanding this old version of yourself you're breaking up with. You can meditate, you can write, you can journal, you can walk, you can talk to a friend.

One of the best ways to break patterns is to work in your Akashic Records. The Akashic Records will help you identify the old version of yourself that's ready to be released. The Akashic Records can assist you in having a self-discovery and so much more. It's one of the best manifesting tools. If you're interested, for a limited time, our registration doors are open for my Akashic Records program, Sacred Awakening, at https://sacredawakening.org

Wherever you're in the breakup process, be gentle, kind, and compassionate with yourself. Breaking up is hard, not just for romantic partners or friendships. You can break up with yourself, and that can be very challenging. So, please be kind to yourself.

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Full transcription of the episode:

Hello and welcome to today's episode. I want to share something fun. I think this is fun because I like to think about things in weird ways. And my husband and I were at a concert last night. We went to go see The Lumineers and so excited to go see The Lumineers. Had no clue who the opening act was.

And it turned out to be one of my favorite singers, artists, and his name is James Bay. And he has this amazing song called Let It Go. And if the normal person would listen to this, they would assume it's a breakup song, a breakup song between two romantic partners. When this song came out, I was obsessed with it. I find that music will appear in our lives and can bring together or encapsulate the way we're feeling, the experiences we're going through, how we are processing things, how we could be processing things.

I love music. I think music is so good for our souls. And this particular song, Let It Go by James Bay, was my breakup song with an old version of myself. I wasn't going through a romantic breakup, but I was breaking up with an old version of myself. And when we were at the concert, and even before we went to the concert, when I found out that he was singing, all of these memories were flooding in on how I would listen to this song over and over and over again.

I have the tendency to do that when I love something, especially music where I will listen and listen and listen and I will sing my heart out. And these emotions just kept coming through about how I was breaking up with an old version of myself and what that felt like and how hard it was to say goodbye to certain aspects. I think that we all break up with parts of ourselves along our journey. Some of those parts are just no longer needed. Sometimes they're really bad habits, sometimes they're toxic habits. Or we just evolve in a way that we have to say goodbye to certain things that just no longer serve us. It doesn't mean that we didn't love them before. It just means that they no longer serve us. So we have to say goodbye.

And when I heard this song in particular, it was a breakup with an aspect of my ego as well. Our ego is stuck in the past, and when the ego is stuck in the past, the ego can throw tantrums, go into fits that are based on past experiences. And so it's up to us to start recognizing that these patterns, these behaviors, are no longer serving. And when this song came out, I started to evaluate my patterning and then I started to mourn this aspect of myself. Because when we say goodbye to an aspect of ourselves that is no longer needed, no longer necessary to hold on to. It is a death of some sort.

And so a piece of you, an aspect of you that is no longer necessary to keep on, to hold on to, to bring forward on your path, we have to say goodbye. And it's a death. And death can be hard and grief can be hard. And so if you are wanting to change, you have to be willing to grieve. If you are wanting to manifest something different than how your life is currently, you have to be willing to look at what parts of you is no longer serving. And when you can do that with a lot of empathy, a lot of love and a lot of compassion, it's an "easier", and I'm going to put that in quotations easier transition. That does not mean there are no emotions attached to it.

Because I know for me, I loved my old self. My old self got me to that point where I could actually recognize the patterns that were no longer serving me. And so without that old version of me, I wouldn't be where I'm at. And so it's really sad sometimes to be like, "Sorry, this isn't working anymore. It's not you, it's me." And it comes down to having the courage to say that and having the courage to go, "Yeah, I love you, but let's not do this anymore."

And we get to evolve. This is one of the best gifts that you can give yourself. I want you to evaluate what parts of you aren't working, what parts of you are stuck in outdated stories, what parts of you are in conflict with the desires that you have. And I think that that part is really important because if you're in conflict, there's a deeper meaning in the conflict. The conflict is trying to shine a light on something. It could be shining a light on deficiencies you have. It could be shining a light on the way that you're thinking. It could be shining a light on relationships that are no longer serving you. Because sometimes we do have to let go of relationships that keep us in a particular vibration, keep us in a preventative flow.

And what I mean by preventative flow is that sometimes we might have people in our life that served a purpose in that particular moment, but they are no longer serving us and growing and evolving. And we can outgrow relationships along our spiritual evolution, which is also part of the breaking up process as well. Not only are we breaking up with ourselves, our old versions of ourselves, but we have the need and requirement to break up with relationships that are no longer serving us as well. And I also like to put that in perspective too because sometimes it's easier for us to go, "That person is toxic. That person is no longer serving me. That person keeps me in a rut. That person makes me feel bad. That person makes me mad." Whatever it is, whatever story you have around it and whatever experience you have around it, sometimes it's easier to identify when someone's not in alignment with your path anymore and it can be hard to say goodbye to them. But I also find that sometimes it's hard to be honest with ourselves when we are that person when we are that aspect of ourselves that's preventing us from growing.

And so just like you have to have the courage to say goodbye to those toxic people in your life, you have to have the courage to say goodbye to the toxic versions of yourself that are no longer serving you. And if you think about it, we outgrow certain things in our life. We outgrow fashion. We like certain fashions at a certain period of time. It's in style. And then part of that fashion that we love gets outdated. And then we go no longer willing to wear this anymore. Also diet, diets are fads. Like there are certain things that become really popular and then they just kind of fade off and then we have to say goodbye to those fads. The old version of you that is no longer serving you also becomes outdated. So how can you get really honest with yourself if that old version isn't serving you?

Look at your desires and then ask yourself, who do you have to become in order to create that desire? And it's usually more authentic, have more courage, more compassion and a slew of other things. And then you ask yourself, what aspect of me doesn't fit that new version of me? What traits and habits does that old aspect of me have? Or the current aspect of me have that no longer can we bring forward into the future?

And then when you get really honest with yourself by asking these questions, then you can start identifying that aspect or aspects that are ready to be released. And then you can have a conversation about that aspect. You can write yourself a letter saying, "Hey, we're no longer doing this dance anymore. I love you and I love you enough to let you go because I love me enough to evolve." And I think that that's really important. Having love and compassion for yourself will help you through the mourning process of breaking up with the old version of yourself that's no longer serving you.

The other thing that I want to share with you is that you can lean into your spiritual tools to start to understand that this old version of yourself you're breaking up with. You can meditate, you can write, you can journal, you can walk, you can talk to a friend. Whatever it is that you want to do that will help too. You might also just find that you're mourning, and you don't know why. You don't know why you're mourning, you don't know why you're grieving, and it's a step back that's required and honesty to go, "Whom and what am I mourning?" Because you might discover that you're already starting on an unconscious level, the mourning process of breaking up with yourself.

You might have had recently a lot of change, or maybe you've had some really good, amazing abundance come into your life. And then you're like, "Wow, why am I sad? I have this abundance coming in. I feel really good about this. I just received this promotion. I just had this good thing happen. But I'm feeling sad." That sadness could be because you're mourning the old version of yourself that is no longer necessary to bring forward.

And that's okay, too. Wherever you're at in the breakup process, be very gentle and very kind and compassionate with yourself. Breaking up is hard, and it's not just for romantic partners or friendships. You can be breaking up with yourself, and that can be really challenging. So please be kind to yourself.

I hope you enjoyed today's episode, and I look forward to seeing you in the next episode. Make sure you like and subscribe. I can't wait to see you in the next one. Bye

One of the best ways to break patterns is to work in your Akashic Records. The Akashic Records will help you identify the old version of yourself that's ready to be released. The Akashic Records can assist you in having a self-discovery and so much more. It's one of the best manifesting tools. If you're interested, for a limited time, our registration doors are open for my Akashic Records program, Sacred Awakening.

We have some amazing bonuses, early-bird discounts going on right now. Go ahead and click on the show notes or go to sacredawakening.org sacredawakening.org or theamyrobeson.com and click on Akashic Records, and you'll find more information about the course. I hope to see you in the program. All right, let me know if you have any questions. Bye.

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