Episode 18: Stop Worrying About the How

When it comes to manifesting, so many people get caught up in the how. How am I going to make this happen? How is this going to occur? What am I supposed to be doing? The how, the how, the how.

The how will stifle your energy. It will box you in if you focus too much on the how. So let me back up for a second. Taking action is very important. Taking the very first step to the thing that you're wanting to manifest is also very important. So when I say don't worry about the how that does not mean don't take action. Taking action is key in telling the universe that you're very serious about the particular desire, dream, or wish that you have. And by taking baby steps towards it, things will naturally start to unfold.

I know for me when it came to starting my business, I never knew how that would occur. I honestly didn't even think about how it was going to occur until I actually was ten steps into the process because I was just following the energy as it presented itself to me, not knowing I was actually preparing myself to start my business. So with that being said, when you are wanting to manifest something, anything, let go of the how.

And I know that can be very difficult at first, but the universe always has something way better planned for you than you can honestly think of. What you have to do is pay attention to the signs that you're receiving and the guidance that you're receiving in order to do that. And the guidance can come in different ways. It could be just like a desire to go to yoga, or it could be a conversation you have with a friend that all of a sudden sparks your interest in something.

And I'll give you an example: Like for me, how I started my business is I started to get certified in different things I was very interested in. In no way, shape, or form did I ever think I would create a business with those things. I was just interested in learning them. And so I followed the energy as the energies presented themselves to me. In other words, I followed the opportunities and said yes to the opportunities when they presented themselves to me. And when I would get like a full-body, yes, it's that I'm in alignment to do that.

And one of those things was I got guidance to start learning how to meditate. And so I found my first teacher. I took a meditation course and in that course then I decided to take her meditation teacher course. That course, I never thought I would actually be a meditation teacher, I just found it fascinating and interesting. And in that course, I learned how to like, how to do hands-on healing, how to do exorcisms, how to read auras, and how to do a dream interpretation. I was really interested in all of these things, and I found it really fascinating.

One of the things in that course that made me really nervous was doing hands-on healing. And all of a sudden, I had an opportunity present itself to me, and I said yes to the opportunity that would give me an opportunity to learn more about hands-on healing. And at the time, I didn't even know it was hands-on healing. Let me share what that opportunity looked like and how it presented itself to me.

So I had a day off, and we were going to go water skiing. And I had a new friend that I just met, and I invited her to go water skiing. And I was super excited to go water skiing. And I said, ‘hey, do you want to go water skiing?” She's like,” No, I'm doing something a little weird.” And I love weird stuff, so interestingly, it piqued my curiosity. And I was telling her I'm like, “Oh, what are you going to do?” And she's like, “Well, it's weird. I'm not sure if I should share it with you.” And I go, ‘Trust me, I love weird. Tell me what you're doing.” And I instantly could feel whatever she was doing I was meant to be doing.

I could feel my body gravitating toward what it is. And I didn't even know what she was about to say. So she said, “Well, I'm going to go get Reiki level one certified.” I had no clue what Reiki was. I had no clue it was hands-on healing. I just knew that I needed to be there. I had to go, and I didn't care if I had to break my plans in order to do so. And so what I did is I followed the energy. Instantly.

I was like, “Hey, can I come with? I'm really interested in this, and I really want to go. Can you ask your teacher if I can come?” And interestingly enough, the teacher let me go, even though I never had a Reiki session. And that was something that allowed me to follow the energy of other things that I was interested in learning as well. It also helped me get over my fear of hands-on healing because it was something I was really nervous about doing, and this was another avenue for me to practice what that looked like.

And so I wasn't worried about how I was going to do it. I just followed the opportunity of what presented itself to me. There's opportunities coming your way at all times. It's up to you to actually pay attention to these opportunities. And how I like to pay attention to the opportunity is if I get like, “a heck, yeah. Like, I'm doing this, I'm in it, I got to do it.” And if you're getting that, you're getting a full-body yes, that is your soul telling you you're on the path to something great here, that this is in alignment with your path, and that you'll fold time doing it as well.And so when you follow these opportunities, the next opportunity will present itself to you. This is where not worrying about the how will just kind of present itself to you.

Also, I find that when I am just handing it over to God or the universe and not worrying about it, the universe will provide for me. And so if you're worried about how ask the universe to take care of it for you. I often will say, I'm not sure what I'm supposed to be doing. Please help me, God. Please help me, universe. I need your help. And I don't want to do this. I want you to help me with it. Please guide me. And that right there just says, I surrender to the process. I am open to what it is, and what is an alignment for me to do. And I'm there. I want to be there. I'm open to it. So there's that. Also. Never say never.

I never had plans to move to South Carolina. And when I started dating my now-husband, I moved because that's where he lived. That's where he decided to set up his business. That's where I thought we were going to retire. We would die there. And in no way, shape or form did I ever think that he would be willing to move from this place. He had a very successful, established business, and I didn't think it would ever happen. I always had a desire to live on the West Coast, specifically in California. I've had that desire since I was a kid. And oftentimes I would see these golden hills like wheatgrass in my meditation. And I never, ever thought that I would ever move there.

I was getting an astrology reading back in 2017, and the astrologer said, you're going to make a very big physical move soon. I was like, that's not happening. That's never going to happen. I literally just brushed off the comment, didn't think about it. It was complete. Well, fast forward. My husband had a near-death life experience, and he had to be really honest with himself about how he didn't want to run his business anymore and that it would actually be healthy for him to move to a different state, that it would help him kind of reset and regather what it is that he wanted to do. So never say never.

We ended up moving to California, and I never thought that dream would actually come to fruition. I just thought that it would be just something that I dreamt about. And it was okay. And I was okay with it. And so I let go of the how. And I also said, okay to the opportunity when the opportunity presented itself to me. I let go of what that looked like or how I was going to do it. And I didn't push for it either, because the timing wasn't right.

And timing is everything when it comes to manifesting and the how, and how the how wants to unfold. We're all working on divine time. And so if you're trying to push the time to fit your preferences, it's never going to work out the way that it's supposed to work out or in the highest good that it's supposed to work out. Now, we ended up moving away from California in the beginning of 21. Does that mean that that dream wasn't good, or does that mean that what we did was bad? No, absolutely not. We got exactly what we were meant to get from the move, and we got a lot of clarity on what we desire to have when building roots. And so a new how presented itself to us when that dream, when that desire was complete, and then we just followed the next spot that we were supposed to be.

And so the thing is, anytime you get caught up in the how you will dim your light. You will create a lot of friction in contraction in your energy field. Let go of the how and hand it over to the universe. Pay attention to the signs that the universe is gifting you on a consistent basis on what steps to take. Take small actions towards the desire on a consistent basis. Those actions do not have to be major. They don't have to be huge actions. It could just simply be, I'm going to start creating a vision board, or I'm going to start reading about this particular subject that I'm interested in learning about. Or it could be I'm going to take a walk every day to clear my mind, to be open to new possibilities.

The key is to take action so that you can see, sense, and pick up on when the universe is sending opportunities your way. Let go of the how, and you will open yourself to an abundant amount of possibility and you deserve to manifest the things that you're wanting to manifest in your life. Have fun while you're doing it. Also, just because you're nervous about doing something doesn't mean that it's a no. Oftentimes people mistake nervous energy as a no versus its actually nervous excitement. Oftentimes when I teach our Sacred Awakening course, which is an Akashic records course, a lot of students will say, "I'm so nervous." I'm like, "Isn't it great? It's because you're excited about what you're about to learn."

And when we have that nervous energy come up, invite it in, and explore it with great curiosity. Because when we're nervous, that also means there's an opportunity to grow outside of our comfort zone. And nervous energy and exciting energy can feel very similar. So it's okay if you're nervous about taking those steps, take them anyways because you deserve it and more opportunities will come your way. I hope you enjoyed this episode. Make sure you subscribe and share it with your friends. I look forward to seeing you in the next one. Bye.